Husband wants another baby but I dont.

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Husband wants another baby but I don't.
I'm 39 and my husband 36. I have an 11 yr old son from a previous marriage and 3 yr old girl with current husband. I'm happy with the family we've got but husband wants another baby predominantly because he would like a biological son of his own.
I have suffered with depression and am on anti-depressants currently which was driven in the main from losing my sister suddenly 8 yrs ago.
Things are not the best between me and hubby and I feel like there's an underlying resentment on his part for me not agreeing to another baby. I'm worried it will be too hard and coming off my anti-depressants would be stressful and have a negative effect on my two children.
AIBU to continue to say no to another? I wish I could say yes but I'm just too scared. I'm so torn and feel so guilty 😔.

And if it's a girl?
If you don't want another then don't say yes. If your relationship isn't solid you could end up going it alone anyway.
So sorry for your loss. Depression is so hard.

@Wolfiefan thank you, it has been tough but I don't like to be all I'm so scared I won't do anything kind of person. Guess I know deep down it's not right but part of me thinks if I do say yes he will be happy.
Now I've said it out loud it sounds absolutely ridiculous.
Bladdy hell it shouldn't be this hard surely?!

It is though!!
I was desperate for a second after my first child. We had number two and I am done. Wild horses wouldn't drag me back!!
There's a difference between not doing anything and giving into having another baby (or more than one if he wants a boy. WTF BTW?!) to keep the peace.

You might want to ask to have this thread moved to a different section, presumably AIBU based on your last question, so you get more replies.

I’m in the opposite situation to you. I desperately want another child but my DH currently doesn’t for very valid reasons that I completely understand. Ultimately having another child needs to be something you both agree on and, if you don’t, the person saying no is the deciding vote.

Thanks both of you for your replies. I've created a new thread under AIBU as suggested. So sorry I'm very new to this and clearly have not got the hang of it!

It’s totally unreasonable to expect a 39 year old woman go through pregnancy and childbirth again just because he fancies a boy.

He has no grounds to resent you for that.

If things aren’t good between you and you split, you’d be single mum to 3 rather than 2 and a small baby to look after.

Oh I see you’ve created a new one, I thought you were just going to get this moved. I will post over there.