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hellonice2 · 14/04/2018 20:58

Anyone feel the same? Too late to change her name now, but every time i hear a pretty name i always wish how i had used it instead of the one choose which i don't like anymore Sad! How do i make this feeling go away and just be content with the name we chose? Anyone had any experience? Thanks

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Slyvestersmouth · 14/04/2018 21:01

Dd is 3 now. For the first two years I was convinced we had made the wrong decision and actually ruined her life. It felt like such a big deal. I just got over it. Sorry that isn't helpful but over time I just stopped worrying, it's just a name and it's her name and we picked it because we loved it. I think it helped when she started saying "I'm Ddname".

Elephant07 · 14/04/2018 21:08

I got over it too...it fades with time and in a way I've remembered why I chose it and love it as it's my child

Tinkobell · 14/04/2018 21:09

DD16 is a tomboy who wants to join the armed forces.....her name is very 'floral'. I wanted to call her Bridget but my DH refused as Bridget Jones Diary was the big thing back in 2001 .....neverMind .....it is just a name & she's our girl!

Scottishgirl85 · 14/04/2018 21:12

I initially started to regret our daughter's name (Eira) as it's unusual and pronunciation needs explaining. But she's three now and couldn't suit her name more, I love it!
Can you tell us the name and we'll convince you it's fab?

hellonice2 · 14/04/2018 21:49

Thanks everyone. The name is Lily, i go through phases of liking it, then wishing i had picked something else. Good to hear the regret fades though

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Isittimeforbed · 14/04/2018 21:53

How old is she? I had name regret for the first year and seriously considered changing it but it definitely faded and now I love it. Try and remember why you chose it. FWIW I think Lily is a beautiful name.

AsTheMilesTheyDisappear · 14/04/2018 21:54

Lily is a beautiful name. One of my favourites.

Winchester13 · 14/04/2018 21:56

Love the name Lily! Such a pretty name

Almahart · 14/04/2018 21:57

I get it as I regret one of my children’s names but Lily is lovely !

Scottishgirl85 · 14/04/2018 21:59

Lily is beautiful! Very pretty! I think you're just feeling the responsibility of picking a name. I'm currently tearing my hair out over two names with 10 days to go before dd2 should be here, the responsibility feels immense! Rest assured Lily is a lovely choice.

Colonelpopcorn · 14/04/2018 22:05

I love the name lily!
Why do you regret it?
Im due next month and struggling to pick a name. One of my worries is regretting it as im horribly indecisive (and regret about 90% of stuff I’ve ever had to pick).

SatsukiKusakabe · 14/04/2018 22:08

Lily is a beautiful name. What is it you’re not sure about? It is pretty without being fussy, and though it is a recognisable name I don’t actually know any little ones so it sounds very fresh to me.

She will be able to take Lily anywhere she goes. I have an unpopular name but I love it and couldn’t imagine being anything else. I think it’s awkward when you first name them as it feels huge, but it takes time to get used to it however sure you are. I found it easier with my second, but love both of their names as they belong to them now.

namaste86 · 14/04/2018 22:12

I LOVE the name Lily. It's always been my favourite girl's name but I can't use it as it would sound dreadful with the surname Sad

Seriously I think it's such a beautiful name that will age well.

hellonice2 · 14/04/2018 22:16

Thanks everyone. I do think the name is pretty, i think i just regret it as i am really indecisive and wasn't 100% sure on it, or any name. I probably would be feeling this way had i picked another name!

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Mum2OneTeen · 14/04/2018 22:36

My DD's name is Lily, she is 17 now and it is her. I can't imagine her being named anything else now.

But when she was born I went through so much angst about her name during that hazy, slightly manic, sleep deprived post-birth period. Names grow on children as they, themselves, develop into the unique individual that they are.

New born babies are so full of potential and possibility, that we, as parents can feel the enormous responsibility of "imposing" an identity upon them in case it is the wrong one. When Lily was born I was so worried about the name creating her, when in fact, it was my DD whose own unique individuality, personalised the name from being a mere word, into an unique part of her entire being.

Sometimes, a name given to a child will turn out to be a poor fit, but in those cases a shortened version, the use of a middle name, or creating an entirely new name altogether will mean an individual's name will evolve with the person.

So, a convoluted post to say don't worry, and that Lily is a lovely name! Let go of the preconceived notions of what the name "Lily" is in your mind knowing that your daughter will make the name "Lily" her own and, as she becomes her own person, you will only associate the name "Lily" as being that of your own beautiful daughter.

TinaTop · 14/04/2018 22:57

Could a nickname be a solution for you? My nephew usually goes by Spike instead of his name because when he was a baby his hair always stuck up. My aunt is usually called Deb - her name is Joanna but gran used to call her Debbie Dumpling and pinch her cheeks, and it stuck. You could pick a nickname for your DD thats unrelated to her real name?

17caterpillars1mouse · 17/04/2018 11:55

I don't regret DD's first name but I really wanted a MN that was really out There but got talked out of it and now wish I hadn't. Used a family name instead which is a lovely name but I do have some regret. I get why people talked me out of it as DD's first name is also very unusual but still

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