Reusing middle names?

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We gave DS1 our 3 favourite boys names as his first name and then two middle names, managed to find another boys name we loved for DS2.
Now pregnant, dont know the sex yet so could be a girl but would it be wrong to consider using one of DS1's middle names as a first name if its a boy?

Yes - give him his on name not his brothers

Is the name Balonz?

Your DS has 5 names not counting surname? 😲

Is this for real?! Your DS has 3 first names along with 2 middle names? Even the royal family don’t have that many...

I can’t work out how many names your son has, but I don’t think you should use an already used name. I’ve made this mistake myself with my first child, had a second child the same sex and realised I wanted the middle name of the first. Didn’t use it though.

I do however know of three men whose names are (changed).

John David
David Andrew
Andrew John.

So...

Your DS has 5 names not counting surname?

No, thats not what I meant. He has one first name, 2 middle names and a surname, I did word that wrong sorry!

Say our favourite 3 boys names were Tom, Harry and Sam.
We names him Tom Harry Sam Surname.

OP says her first son has three names: a first name and two middle names. She used up her three favourite boys names on her DS1.

Personally OP, I wouldn't. I think each child deserves their own name. There are plenty of great boys names out there. If you tell us the sort of names you like, we can always give you suggestions.

Oops, crosspost!

Haha that makes wayyy more sense, although I have to say I’m slightly disappointed now

I think many will disagree but I’d totally re-use if I couldn’t come up with anything I loved as much. Especially as your DS1s names are all timeless classics.

No. Don't. Your next baby deserves their own identity. It's not cute and it's not a nice family link - to me, it's disrespecting the individuality of the next baby. Surnames are enough to tie a family together. As a younger sibling, I would have hated being called a name my elder sibling had first. There must be more than three names in the world that are tolerable to you. Your baby having his own name, is more important than you absolutely adoring every single letter of his name.

They are not DS1's names I was just giving an example, they are not really timeless classics if that changes your view

I had cousins with the eldest being called Stephen John and the younger one was John Stephen. Don't do it!

No, it would always be like an afterthought... We couldn't be bothered to think of a new name for you! - obviously I know that's totally not the case, and it's just you've used up the names you genuinely loved... But still.

Don’t do it. DDs husband insisted their DS had a middle name which was the first name of his eldest son by a previous relationship. Weird.

Unless DS2 has the same middle name then please give DS3 his own names.

For example:

DS1 - Tom Richard Harry Lastname
DS2 - Jack Samuel Harry Lastname
DS3 - Gary Barry Harry Lastname

All ok. But...

DS1 - Tom Richard Harry Lastname
DS2 - Jack Samuel Gary Lastname
DS3 - Harry Lastname (because we ran out of names)

Not ok.

Okay, If its a boy we will give him his own name.

I would go for different names. I’m sure you can find some more you like.

Please call him Gary Barry Harry

I agree with romainecalm