My mum hates the name I've picked

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I'm due in less than 4 weeks and I love the name April but every time I mention it to my mum she makes a face. It's starting to get on my nerves and I'm starting to think I should pick a different one. My DH says he neither likes or dislikes it. Not sure what to do. Any other names suggestions would be welcome. We also don't know what we are having and have no preferred boys name either help!

Can you say to her, look I’ve mentioned a name I really like and might potentially use, can you stop pulling faces please.

I don't like the name Ape, I like April??

Our surname is short so could go with a longer first name. I like traditional names but ones that aren't too common. It is important to me that my mum likes it.

My mum also pissed me off by saying she'd have preferred a slightly different version of my dd's name- don't want to give it away but imagine changing a middle syllable to make a name into a similar, but different one. I was fuming. I love her but it's nothing to do with her what we name our children.

I can pretty much guarantee that your mum will love your baby so, so much that she'll grow to love the name you give her, too. I really would keep it to yourselves until she's born!

Best advice I was ever given was don't announce the name until the child is born. They'll love the child and even if they don't like the name as they'll love the child the name will grow,on them.

April is a lovely name
Avril or Astrid as a suggestion

However

I’d stick with the name I like , and just tell your mum that as she didn’t like the name you’ll be calling the baby Princess Chardonnay Chlamydia ( or some such ludicrous monstrosity ) and then call her April when she’s born

Love April!
Understated and strong while feminine.
I'm thinking April o'neil and April kepner both strong female characters.
My mother didn't like dds name or ds name and mentioned variants but sorry my child my choice.

Rooky mistake telling her your choices . I'm keeping my names till my ds is born because I know she won't like them.

Aprils lovely and you don't need to change it.

Name her what you like. It's not your mums baby. I didn't tell anyone the name because I knew someone would complain or try and put me off it.

April is perfect op!!
When my mil didn't like ds name I told her not to visit then!! Soon warmed to it!!

April isn't my cup of tea BUT it's a nice name and isn't made up like a lot of names these days. She would also be born in April so it makes sense. Your mum has had her turn at naming and now it's yours.so what if she or anyone else turns their noses up at it? I would make sure your partner is happy with whichever name you choose though because that is important. She may not look like an April when she gets here x

My friend chose an unusual name for her DD, her mum went on and on about how she'd never get used to it and kept calling the baby more commonly used names beginning with the same initial. She's over it now, child is 5 and name is perfect for her, even in grandma's opinion.

We had the same thing with our DS

People were very vocal pre birth and once he was born (6weeks ago) not a sausage.

Ignore what other people think and go with what you want!!!

People have different tastes...
Do you like their decor/interiors?
Their style?

Probably not!

April is a beautiful name

I also immediately thought april o’neil. Great choice.

My
Mum wanted me to name my dd june after her. She wasnt born in june. She also wanted summer. She wasnt born in summer either. I told her great that she loved those names and to go have her own baby. She was 65 so declined...

We’ve not told our parents our choices as guaranteed they will have an opinion. My parents will probably just accept it and love the baby regardless. DH’s mother on the other hand will tell us that she doesn’t like the name and will suggest alternatives regardless of what we call the baby. I may punch her in my hormonal post birth state! She’s actually on holiday up until a week before baby is due so we are both hoping baby is born early as she is just a pain who has to be centre of attention and have her opinions heard. She will be unbearable.

So yes OP go with whatever you like, people will always have opinions and you are unlikely to please everyone :) maybe just don’t make a final decision/confirm it to your mother until baby is here, hopefully she will be so besotted it will not matter!

I love the name April, so if that's the one you want, I'd stick to it.

Use April. My mum hated the name I loved and screwed up her face and said negative things about the name. I used a different one. Turns out she doesn't like this name either. Wish I had given MY child the name I loved.

I wouldn't worry too much to your Mums opinion on the name. It's really common for parents to dislike their kids choice of baby names. Names tend to come round on a hundred year cycle, so a lot of names popular now, would be what your parents think of as their parents or grandparents generation of names. people in their 20's and 30's now would not like names of people born in the 40-60's, as thats our parents generation of names.
She'll soon warm to the name when the baby is here. It's frustrating that she feels the need to pull a face, and take away your excitement of the name, but that's no reason not to go with a name you love.

Your mum will just have to like it or lump it.
She's had her day choosing names.

April is a lovely, pretty name.
Your Mother is being unkind, this is your choice, she's had her turn.
I wouldn't mention names again in her company. Don't allow her, to influence you, she might not like the next name you choose.
What is your other daughter called ?

My mum doesn't like my chosen name - it's not 'younique' enough for her tastes. I don't give a damn, she'll love her no matter the name when she's here!

I love April but I know kids will say “April Fool” to tease.

April is a lovely name and if you don't abbreviate it, others will follow your lead.
My mum didn't like all the names I chose for my dc - she got over it and now can't imagine them being called anything different.
Don't let someone put you off the name you really want. You will resent it later.

Actually, OP, I shouldn’t have said that, so I take it back. If you’d told me you’d just had a little girl called April I’d have said how lovely it was. People just feel that before a name is actually given, they can comment. Which is your your mum did and the trap I fell into. I’m sorry: you weren’t asking for opinions on the name so I shouldn’t have given one.

I’m having this right now. My DH and I both love the name Felicity. Made the mistake of telling my mum this and she has said ‘if it’s girl I’d like you to reconsider your name... kids can be cruel blah blah blah’ and some other shit about how when people asked her what names we were thinking and she said Felicity they were like ‘oh’ rather than ‘that’s lovely’ ... like I should give a shit what some random person from her work thinks?
It really upset me and I now don’t want to discuss anything to do with names with her. She keeps suggesting other girls names and it’s really getting to me. I was so upset by what she said and it’s making me feel dreadful thinking when baby comes she will hate the name - oh and she says my dad and brother don’t like it either (the boys name we told her is a family name which everyone is happy with... but we actually know we are having a girl - she doesn’t yet!)