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OH has chisen a name that I've gone off!

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SheenaK · 11/03/2018 10:08

Hi all! Happy mother's day!
This is my first post on mumsnet, but I have used the thread for advice when I've needed it! This is the first time I can't find anything to help, so I thought I'd ask for advice specifically.

My OH and I have been together almost 10 years and are expecting our second little one in July! We found out two weeks ago that we are having another little boy, and I immediately wanted to name him. OH, however, is much more laid back and said he'd decide on a name later (I had already told him all the names I really liked). He also knew it would wind me up (not in a serious way, though!) to leave the decision until later.

Today, I got two beautiful mother's day cards - one from DS, with a scribble signature, an one from bump, with the name Cillian in it! Every time I had mentioned the name Cillian, OH had shot it down, saying he didn't like it, even when we were expecting our first boy. So I had completely dismissed it, and had was leaning towards something different. Turns out, OH was winding me up.

I don't know what to do now! It was such a lovely gesture, he wanted it to be a surprise and I don't want to ruin that for him. I do still like the name but had sort of chosen something different in my mind. Should I say something to OH now? Or leave it a while and see if the name grows on me again? I'm 21 weeks so we still have plenty of time.

Any advice is very much appreciated!

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PencilledIn · 11/03/2018 10:11

I don't think it's that's lovely a gesture. It seems a bit manipulative to me!

I'd let today pass and just keep referring to the baby as bump. He was trying to 'sign seal and deliver' Cillian which was a bit manipulative.

PencilledIn · 11/03/2018 10:12

oh hang on, that was YOUR choice!

I take it back. It was a lovely gesture. Just leave it a few days and then suggest other names again.

SheenaK · 11/03/2018 10:19

I've just noticed the typo in the title, sigh.

I think that could be best o leave it. It feels kind of like a recieving a gift I had asked for, but then didn't really want and I feel a bit ungrateful! But it was one of he names I had chosen and loved, so maybe it will grow on me again.

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AreWeDoingThisNow · 11/03/2018 11:32

I 'went off' the names we'd chosen for a boy in the last few weeks, I didn't mention it to DH, I was planning to see how I felt when the baby was here and bring it up if I still didn't like it.

We had a girl so didn't have to decide!

I'd leave it a bit and see if it grows on you again, bring it up when it won't spoil his gesture if you still don't like it in a few weeks maybe?

(I'm not a fan of gestures like this, it's like when people pretend to forget birthdays so they can throw a surprise party, I find it hard to change mental gears away from the initial disappointment)

AreWeDoingThisNow · 11/03/2018 11:33

*name, just the one.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 11/03/2018 11:38

Leave it a couple of weeks then start mentioning other names. When he asks WTAF just say you’re not sure about it now.

It was a sweet thing to do, but if you’ve gone off it you’d be mad to name your child this because of a card.

Mind you, I have my name because of a card and it wasn’t even my Dad 😂

TheDailyMailIsADisgustingRag · 11/03/2018 12:37

Wait till he’s born. It doesn’t need to be decided yet and you might change your mind again anyway.

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