I given up

[Lucydean22]

So I'm having a baby girl and I was wanting to give her a name that isn't common but has nice ring to it so I wanted to call her melody, I have always wanted to call a little girl melody and now is my opportunity but the father of the baby is so against it and it brakes me 😩
I have said to him we can always wait and see if she looks like a melody when she's born and I been looking at back up names and he's just disagreed to everyone I have said and I have literally lost the will to live 😩 sorry for this depressing post but I just feel like giving up 😭

Is he making any suggestions? What other names has he vetoed?

Oh and I love the name Melody! Shame he's not budging.. Although maybe he'll never agree and eventually cave in and go for it. This happened for a friend of mine recently!

I think tbh if one parent dislikes a name you really can't use it. But it's shit that he's vetoing everything. Send him off to do some research himself as well!

Elodie?

He needs to come up with some ideas and not just veto everything.

I like Melody, or Elodie, or Eloise.

In your situation, and with no input apart from obstructive crap from him, I could be tempted to stick to my guns.

I appreciate though, that that is my own stubborn streak speaking, and it is probably bad advice.

Is he your husband or partner? Weird you call him just the baby's father.
What does he like? You need to choose a name you both like. You'll be saying it a lot over the next 40 years!
It breaks you?! No it doesn't. That's the hormones speaking. There are loads of lovely names.

Calypso? Terpsichore? Cecilia?

Melody is lovely !
What names does he like ?
Are you together as a couple ?

Not as cool as Hand of Fate, but

What are his suggestions?
I love Melody

There's going to be so many ways that your daughter doesn't match the daughter you have dreamt of because she's going to be her own little person now, no longer an imaginary figure. Perhaps you could see a different name as a nice new marker between your dreams and reality.

I would insist the baby's father come up with a list of 20 names, and you come up with 20 and then start whittling them down.

You really shouldn't have a name one of you really doesn't like though.

Good luck!

Tell him that for every name he vetoes, he has to come up with a replacement suggestion of his own. Otherwise he is making you do all the work while he gets to sit there and reject everything you say. Which is unfair and demoralising.

How about Harmony, Liberty, Cadence, Bonnie, Lyric, Ember, Winter...?

Yep unfortunately you both have to agree. Some of my favourite names that I have loved for years my husband said no to. But I had to accept that! We came to an agreement in the end.

Melanie. Melinda. Melissa. Elodie

I think there is an app you could both download - it suggests names and with the ones you and your partner both like it compiles a shortlist. I haven't used it but my friend used it with her husband when she was pregnant and said it was really good. Maybe that would help?

Can you get him to agree to it as a middle name? You can always call her that when you speak to her.