Gahhhh really trying not to tell names!

[sureitsgrand]

With DS my DH family were constantly asking what names we had picked, and never liked them and it used to really upset me! Fast forward 3 years, DC2 due any day and I'm not so caught up in what other people think.

I have names picked, we'd not told anyone. But now it's so close people keep asking, and I'm such a bad liar and it's obvious I would have picked names by now! I've told one or two people, who weren't very enthisiastic and all my self doubt has crept back in lol and I'm frantically googling baby names again.

I'm also suffering with pregnancy depression so this probably doesn't help as regard questioning myself.

How do people stay quiet about names!!!! And any inspiration out there for some new names just in case!!

When people asked I just replied "I have it got a name, will wait until baby arrives"

Pick something ridiculous and say with a straight face that you are using the name (lets say Bonzo) for whichever gender comes out.

Don't deviate at all!

My friend had a baby who's names I wasn't particularly keen on but a) it wasn't any of my business and b) as they have grown up then the name has grown up with them and I now quite like it on them.

"We're waiting to see which name suits the baby best"

That's it, people never say anything once baby is named really, it's beforehand! Wish I'd kept schtum, but I knew DH had told a couple of people and I felt like a liar. Need to practice my poker face. No point in reminding DH at this point as he finds it so hard to keep a secret and thinks I'm being dramatic. And at this stage he's been so kind while I've been depressed off my head I can't keep moaning at him!

I did say to SIL, I've thought of a few but not picking till baby arrives. So straight away she said go on what's the choices and I just felt caught and too rude to say- I'm not telling you!!

Then she went quiet over the names I said, and started suggesting loads of other names.

Ah well, I need to stop overthinking probably!

We just told people we had picked a name but it was our secret. Didn't stop them asking again! We held fast and refused to tell anyone.
Will be doing the same this time.

We told most people we were waiting to.see - we didnt know whether we were having a boy or girl so it was generally accepted. One kf dh's relatives was persistent so we just told her something daft....

So what’s your shortlist OP? 😉

Haha can't face even typing it now!!

Oh gosh we had people asking constantly, even after we said we were waiting for baby to get here.
In the end we just told everyone it was my husbands name with rina at the end! of course it wasn't but people stopped asking, haha.

Most people expect the name to be secret until the birth. Just say you've chosen one and will share it in due course. We had our name picked for months and people stopped asking once we told them it was chosen.

I really couldn’t give a stuff what other people think of our name choices. Why do you mind?

People will always stick their beaks in, just say it's a surprise, or be honest, say that you had so many negative responses last time, that you've decided not to reveal babies name, until he/she is born.
Your baby, your call, sorry you're unwell OP. 💐

Pick a slightly ridiculous name and say you are naming the baby that.
For example, Russell or Jo Grand - nothing against the name Russell or Jo but Grand sounds a bit like Brand.
Percival or Persephone - DC2 will be known as Percy perhaps?
Then when DC2 arrives give it your chosen name.

Tell them you are waiting to see your baby before you make a final choice on the name.
Or say you've decided on Brick.

Just tell everyone it will be called Roman Chap.

We just said that we hadn't made a final decision if asked before DC were born. Anyone who kept asking about name lists was told that they changed daily and feel free to give us a suggestion if they wanted to. This turned out to be quite fun

We told everyone ds was going to be Oleg (meerkat ad!)
Unfortunately ds 6 told everyone so honestly people thought he had to be telling the truth!! Shut them all up though!!. And the amount of folks who told him - ah that's lovely was amazing!!!

‘We’ve got a few we like, we can’t make our minds up, we will decide when baby is here and I’m sure you’ll be one of the first to know’
I’m only 21 weeks but I’m getting asked a lot. I’m just saying we haven’t even discussed names and then I will repeat the above as many times as necessary.

Oleg is rather nice.

We just told people the truth: we’ve chosen the name but we’re not telling. I always said it with an apology and a smile. Depending on who it was (eg close friend and not random stranger) I would explain a bit more ie we don’t want to be influenced by people’s reactions, we want to wait until he’s born before we confirm, we’d like the name to be a surprise when we announce the birth. We did tell people it was a boy and we also gave close family some clues to keep them busy as they kept nagging us to tell!

We just said ‘no idea yet’ and left it at that! I didn’t care whether anyone believed me or not.

I'd just say to people that you won't be announcing the name until after the birth. They can't argue with that. Tell people you have a few names picked out and will decide once you see the baby. People need to respect that it's your choice when to announce the name. If you are feeling bold, I'd even say that last time people were negative about your name choices which upset you, so this time you're keeping it quiet. It's up to you what you call your child, people will always feel the need to voice their opinion, but it's a lot harder for people to be negative about a name that you've already given a baby.

We just said we didn't know!

Just tell everyone it will be called Roman Chap

Hahahahahaha!!

Is that thread still around?

Reply "If the baby is a boy, we are calling him William, nickname Willy, a girl we will call her Frances, nickname Fanny." Straight face. Not a flicker.
When your baby arrives and you call him/her what you really decided, then you can say that someone pointed out that there might be ishoos with your original choices. And smile.