Using a friends baby name

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Years ago, on discussing baby names, it transpired that a friend and I had the same baby name. We agreed that no one can claim a name and whoever got there first could use this name.

We were both pregnant at the same time, but her baby born a few months before ours, so she used the name and we went with something else for ours.

However, I'm now pregnant again and my husband and I still love the name and would still love to use it. If we don't use this name (which is still both our favourite name) the next one we can both agree on is about 20th on our list.

The friend is a really good friend but not best friend, we see each other maybe 10 times a year as part of a group but lots more texting and group WhatsApp.

So, would you be annoyed. Is this an ok thing to do?

We agreed that no one can claim a name and whoever got there first could use this name.

From what you’ve written, I don’t think your friend will mind if you use the same name. Unless she’s the kind of person who says that she doesn’t mind, when actually she does? But even so, I think you should go for it. The fact that you still want to use it after your first child, shows that it’s still your favorite and you might regret it if you choose a different name. Who knows, when the baby is born, you and your partner might have a change of heart and decide that a completely different name suits him/her

I think it's perfectly fine, id use it!! I'm intrigued to know what the name is🙈

Ask your friend, I was in a similar situation and sent my friend a really long rambling hormonal message explaining it was really playing on my mind. She replied with a lovely message saying she thought it was really kind of me to check and she 100% didn't mind and found it a compliment. I was so relieved and then by time baby was born I picked another name anyway 😂

It’s nice to ask, but from what you say I would expect your friend to be fine about it. You had an agreement and honoured it, so she got to use it first. She didn’t get exclusivity.

Btw, you both sound really nice people to have worked this out in advance so maturely.

Just use it! I wouldn’t care at all.

I would go ahead and use the name but tell them first so it's not a surprise.