Same names in the family.

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Am I the only one that hates when fathers or mothers name kids after themselves or grandparents. One of my best friends is called Antonio, his father, grandfather etc going back 6 generations are Antonio. I just don’t get why you wouldn’t want your child to have their own identity. It really ruffles my feathers when people gloat about it aswell. It’s like you have no imagination. I’m all for using relative names for middle names to honour loved ones but not first names.

It’s not something I’d do but I can’t say it ruffles my feathers as such. Although it’s generally boys who are named after their fathers isn’t it? I do think it’s often a case of a) egotism or b) a lack of imagination.

If I married a man whose family’s first born sons had been given the same name since 1452 I’d have to be that cow that said 'nah, the tradition ends here, my love’.

I agree with this it comes of as sort of arrogant. My DP son from a previous relationship is a Junior but now goes by his middle name mainly because his mum regrets naming him after his father and not what she wanted! I tell him it's good he already has a kid named after him because there's no way I would have named our son after him maybe as a middle but never a first they are their own person not a carbon copy of their parent so deserve to have their own name!

It more ruffles my feathers when men especially are cocky about it, I have seen it more boys being names after their fathers but have seen a few girls.

It's a harmless tradition so not something I can imagine caring enough about to have an opinion

You could say the same about identity when using any name that isn't yooniq

Don't you want little Emily to have a separate identify from all the other Emilys out there? How about Ehmilly!?

Yes, I hate it, and I say that as someone whose first and middle names are both family names.

It's uninspired, and there is a significant chance that your child will share a name with a person who they don't always get along with (or, in my case, don't get along with at all).

I find it really funny that my boyfriend is called Robert and he has cousins called Robert and Bobby (who aren't siblings luckily). Not a very original family.

I have seen it where not only did father and son have the same name but daughter had the female version (think Paul and Pauline) .

My DGM refused to I've my dad named after DGF, ending centuries of tradition (though he was named after her father).
It's also really common in our family for the men (in a non-linear fashion) to have a particular and unusual middle name. Think the record was six with it at the same time.

Really? As long as you’re not pressured into naming your own child after your annoying fil or similar then really theres no harm is there? Not your child not your business.

OH has a family middle name that we gave to our eldest ds (as his middle name) not to appease or honour but maybe just for tradition and because we liked it as a middle name. Eldest Ds also has my maiden name as a middle name so we’re even IMO. youngest ds has my late fathers middle name as his middle name. That definitely was to honour late fathers memory (also because he came to me in a dream and begged me to have another baby )

Its quite normal in italian families, hence many Antonio's, Mario's etc in one family.

I really don't like it -just give the baby its own name. Like you OP, for what seems like zillions of generations, the boys, in our family, are named Anthony, in so called honour of their predecessors, who were all called Anthony! No, this has to stop.

Our DDs first name is that of her great,great grandma (DP side) and her middle name is that of her great, great grandma my side...you may call it uninspired but we call it a lovely reminder of dear family members-and both are names we love. Each to their own right?

I don't get it myself - particularly when it is people who will be living together (parent and child, as opposed to Grandparent) - just seems to be asking for confusion to me.
However, I can't say I can get worked up about it - it's their problem, not mine.

My family had two making traditions - the first being the name 'Roselle' being passed from eldest daughter to eldest daughter and can be traced back generations (doesn't have to be a first name) and the second being the eldest son taking the fathers first name as his middle name. As the middle daughter, I missed out on both and actually felt quite sad about it.

My father died just over a year ago and will never know that I'm getting married or having a baby. When OH and I started discussing names, I felt I wanted a traditional family name and suggested Edward and Lily. Both were my father's parents - I never met Edward and Lily died when I was 7. Edward was also my fathers middle name. They were the only two names I suggested that OH actually liked under their own merit.

My dad was never known as Edward, but it makes me really happy to be able to honour him in calling my son Eddie.

I was named after my DF's mother, and have named my DD after my DM's mother. I loved having that link with my DGM as a child & hope my DD will like having a link back to her ancestry. It's very common in Greek families, not just for men but women too.

I think that there is a difference between a tradition which means parents are effectively told what to name their child and parents picking a family name of their choice for their child.

dh has his dad's first name as a middle but we didn't get any pressure to use family names for ds. When we decided to name dd after two of her great grandmothers both families were actually a bit unhappy about it. dd likes the connection and doesn't share her name in more than theory as neither great granny is still alive and they wouldn't have been referred to by the first names in the family anyway. ds's middle name appears in both family trees, but only because it's a very traditional name. He likes that his first name is after a famous historical character and I suspect couldn't care less about the middle one.

I really dislike it because I would hate to be sharing a name with my parent. I also think it risks making other siblings feel less cherished - I know twin boys, one of whom has his father's first name. I think that seems really tough on the other twin boy and I wouldn't like it if it were me.

I also agree that a naming obligation (almost always on the paternal side - "all eldest sons have been called Billy-Bob since the year dot") is very disrespectful to the parents as a couple and a new family. It effectively means one parent, apart always the mother, doesn't get a say at all.

I went to school with a family who had ,Roberta, Robin, Bobby (all named after their dad Robert)... and Philip! Became a family joke in our house.

It happened in my family. Grandmother to daughter to granddaughter all the same name.

Not only is it confusing it is a god awful name.