Family stealing names

[motherfiver]

Is it not common etiquette to not name your child a name that a child in the close family already has?

Dp's sister is expecting in a few weeks, and has said DS's name is in their top 3 for a boy, but has assured me it will be spelled differently if they choose it.
I mean I don't own the name and I'm not bothered enough to make a fuss but I'm definitely hoping they don't use it and I will be quietly pissed of if they do.

Would you do this, or be annoyed if someone did it to you?

Our family (including cousins) is very boy heavy, and we have three boys ourselves. When we were picking a name for our littlest, we had lots of names on the list that were names of brothers/nephews/cousins/friend’s boys, or slight variations. That’s what happens when you know lots of boys! We wanted a name that we liked and if it happened that we knew someone else with the same name, well so be it. One of our older boys has the same name as my cousin, they love having that special connection. In the end we chose a name for our youngest that was not in the family, but not because we didn’t want to double up, just because it was our favourite. I see it as a form of flattery of someone else chooses the same name...better than everyone hating a made up stupid name!

I knew three siblings once...Paul, Paula and Pauline

I did too and I definitely knew them. Not a friend of a friend of a friend type of thing. They were kids in a town beginning with F in the 70's 👀

I have a cousin with the same name and my brother has an uncle and cousin with the same name. No one was offended and no one is ever confused!

Spelling it differently doesn't make much of a difference imho so Jackson v Jaxon etc would still end up being pronounced the same so I would say to your sil that if she doesn't mind her child being called either Jaxon 2 or Jaxon with an X all his life then crack on. Think she'll soon come round to the idea her child would get the raw deal.

I know someone who was pregnant, didn’t know what she was having but wanted the name Roisin for a girl. Her SIL who wasn’t even pregnant burst into tears when she told her the planned name, and said she had always had her heart set on it. My friend had a girl and didn’t use the name out of respect for her SIL who was sstc. Her SIL then had a daughter, then a second daughter and called neither of them Roisin. My friend then also had a second DD so used the name.
The moral of the tale is use the name you like.

My sister and cousin have the same name, only 3 yrs apart. I’ve never thought of it as strange, it’s just what they’re called. We call them Our Lucy and Their Lucy or use surnames to differentiate.

(Lucy isn’t actually the name)

I wouldn't use the same first name, but my son and two of my cousins children have middle names in honour of our grandad. One is X Charles, one X Charlie and one X Charlotte.

If it's a name that is used to remember a family member I don't think it's an issue, but I'd still probably be annoyed at someone in the family using the same first name as me!

Well the point about my big fat Greek wedding is that it’s tradition to make after the grandparents. I have 4 cousins on my mums side with the same name. It’s great fun at family gatherings when the name gets called & all 4 answer! It’s really no big deal. The big deal would be not to name after the parents!

Hmm I don’t know on one hand you don’t “own” a name but I think I’d be a bit cheesed off that of all the names there are out there a close family member couldn’t think of one my child didn’t already have