Middle names

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Is giving your son your husband’s middle name as his middle name odd in any way? I don’t think so but I’m sure I’ve read some say it is a bit egotistical so I’m doubting myself!

I think I’m certain families it’s expected/traditional. Lots do it as a first name.

No way odd!!
My ds has my dh first name as his surname!! That's odd!!

Ds has the same middle name as dh as it's a family tradition on his side of the family. Dd also has a middle name that runs in my family

We've done this, and the name was my FIL's name.
I like tradition sometimes.

No we are planning to do the same if our baby is of the boy kind.

What do you mean figroll...I’m super tired and can’t get my head around your comment lol

Thank you. I like it and think it’s a nice tradition but the egotistical comment made me wobble. Don’t feel so wobbly now!

At the end of the day whatever name you pick someone won’t like it out there in the world whether they don’t like family names, unusual names, traditional names, a name that reminds them of someone they didn’t like etc. So don’t worry what anyone else thinks. Keep it to yourself until it’s time. If you hear if dismissed without them knowing it’s your choice, so what. That’s their opinion for who ever they get to name.

I personally wouldn’t do it.
My DH insisted on using his already double-barrelled surname (didn’t want to combine a part of his and mine or even consider triple-barrelling...).
Our DC’s middle names therefore honour my side of the family. And I wouldn’t give my first name to any of our children (but then again, I didn’t have any strong feelings about passing on my family name either...)

But that’s just my opinion. And it’s impossible to find a name or a naming tradition everyone likes.... and it’s your child (well, obviously). Which is why you should choose a name you like / is meaningful to you and your DH. :) (and as long as it isn’t a name like Fanny or Randy...)

ReUsing male names is tradional in dp's family. Thankfully I like the name, plus it gives me leverage to choose the first name

We have named the dc after grandparents for their middle name so they have some meaning rather than picking a random name.

We have a recurring middle name on the maternal side of my family.

I don't like the tradition in some families of father & son having exactly the same name. But middle much less controversial.

Only names we’ve agreed on for baby due next month is dp’s middle and last name as the baby’s middle and last name. I think it’s nice if they want it and you don’t hate it.

Not odd at all. All the men in my family have the same middle name.
The good thing about middle names is that no one cares about them so you can do what you want. It's a good way of carrying on a tradition or honouring a deceased relative.

If we were having a boy he would of had the same middle name as his dad.

Thank you. Think we will go for it :-)

My son has two middle names. One is his maternal grandad’s first name and one is a paternal surname that every first born son has. He has his dad’s Surname too. I clearly should have fought harder for rhe firat name i wanted.

Friends middle-named their daughter with mum’s first name and their son with dad’s first name. I always thoght it to be odd.

We have two middle names in our family so this is the second middle name-probably makes it even less of an issue! I’m overthinking things!