Baby name regret 😞

[Je3sica]

I have regretted my daughters name straight after we signed her registration.
She is now 17 weeks old.
So this has been going on for a long time!
It has been very stressful naming her, it took 6 weeks to register her.
Up until 6 weeks before my pregnancy I loved Sophie Cora but became obsessive, not sure if I loved it anymore, sounded to similar to our daughters name Chloe..
My other children have 5 letters in their first name and both middle names begin with M, not on purpose but I felt at the time our 3rd child should have the same.
Now it doesn't bother me and I think what was I thinking!
I have cried a lot before naming her after we named her, talking about it everyday with a few names but nothing seemed right!
This is our 3rd child so never felt this before.
I have been diagnosed with PND I have been on antidepressants for 5 weeks now and I am feeling much better (worst feeling/time of my life).
We named our daughter Sofia Mia it doesn't sound right?
Too matchy also Sofia sounds like So-fear, I can not believe I didn't notice this before!
When I say her name that is what it sounds like and I think why did I call her that and it it doesn't sound like a name.
So confusing as some days I'm ok then not.
If I was to register her now I would choose Sophie Cora but I am getting used to Sofia Mia but wish I went with Sophie Cora!
Most times I didn't want people to ask me what her name was as i didn't like hearing what I called her.
My partener is ok with changing it but I don't want to regret changing it and feeling regret about it but I feel I want.
I know how this sounds.. It is everyday I am thinking like this.
I just feel like I let my baby down and feel terrible I am thinking like this about her name and wish I could go back in time.
Should I just deal with Sofia Mia or change it?
Has anyone else felt like this?
Opinions please?

Also on the way home from registering her my face dropped as I thought I should have gone with Emily I never had that face drop dread feeling before.
I have liked Emily Rose also but my friends daughter is called Emily and my sisters middle name is Rose and we don't speak but one of my partners sisters middle is rose.
So feel like I couldn't use it.

I am fed up of thinking about this.

I would keep Sophia and change Mia to Cora. I have never heard anyone pronounce it so fear, always the three syllables. You have lovely taste in names!

It's a lovely name and how often do you actually ever use your middle name? I never do because it's really awful!

I did know a Cara Mia.

We're switching this thread across to baby names now folks.

As you were......

Your names are nice - but change them if you're really not sure. It's no big deal as your daughter's so young. Or you could insert another second middle name into the mix to separate the Sofia from the Mia, such as Sofia Emily Mia or Sofia Rose Mia.

Sofia is lovely, as is Mia. if you’re worried about rhyming then Sofia Cora sounds beautiful to me - a warm name.

it’s all good either way, OP. honestly.

I don't think there's any harm in changing her name from Sofia to Sophie at 17 weeks old. Sophie could easily be a nickname for Sofia, so many people need not even know it has been formally changed.

wait wait actually think about what daisypond said - add a middle-middle name. that’s proper genius.

Oh I love the name Sofia and I think Sofia Cora would be lovely.

Sophie and Sofia are such similar names. You should definitely change it. No one would even bat an eyelid as they'd just think Sophie was a diminutive of Sofia anyway. Middle names are so rarely used or spoken that you could change it without anyone even noticing.
Do it.

Thank you all for replying 🙂

Personally I love the name but you can easily shorten Sofia to Sophie. Sending

Sophie Cora works better than Sophia Mia. How about Sophia Cora (I do like the 'ph' spelling much better than the 'f' one, somehow) as a compromise?
But honestly, change it if this feeling is so persistent.

Yes, The Exorcism of Emily Rose.
What about Emily Rosa?

Just call her Sophie (or Sofie). It originated as a nickname for Sophia anyway.

Change it, OP, if you really want to. Sophie Cora is lovely.

You have up to a year to change her name I have a Sophie but I don’t really reference her middle name. You clearly feel unhappy about the name so I would change

Start calling her Sophie now straight away. Sophie is then her name, and the rest is just paperwork - it can be done any time. My brother has all his life been universally known as a variation of his name that isn't on his birth cert. Nobody has ever called him his birth cert name.

I think Sophie Mia is lovely, but if you want to change Mia to Cora when you are updating Sophie, do. I quite like Sophie M. Surname as opposed to Sophie C. Surname. Just my opinion though.

Look after yourself and do the things you need to do to feel well. I obsess about things and feel indecisive when my mental health isn't good.

I have never heard anyone pronounce it so fear, always the three syllables.
I pronounce 'so fear' with three syllables. It does sound exactly the way I would say Sofia... That doesn't particularly bother me though!
Anyway, I would change it. I agree that it won't be a significant difference for anybody else, but it will be for you.

Sophia Mia and Sophie Cora are both lovely.

I completely understand the feelings of loss and frustration when you don’t get your own choice of name.

BUT, you have still chosen a lovely name and it doesn’t really matter, life goes on all the same.

As PP said, start calling her Sophie and do the paperwork when you can. Go with your first choice as I don’t think baby name regret goes away, though it diminishes a bit. And, yes, take care if yourself and your mental health. You will be amazed at how positive and clear you feel once that fog has lifted. Finally, congratulations on your baby girl!

I'd suggest taking ur time, I changed my daughters name when she was over a year old! (shock horror I know)!!
She's 3 now and can't remember her other name, it took two days of calling her th new name and she responded every time . Aaaaanywho I'd say change it , when uve found the right one and are feeling comfortable with it . I hate my eldest child's name (awful, chosen when I was 20 name)!
I also had pnd on one of my children , I promise u it gets easier , keep going and ull get through, deep breaths :)
Good luck! X

All lovely names. I would either:
Start calling her Sofie/Sophie as a nickname
and/or
Change her middle name to Cora
and/or
Change her first name to Sophie

I had this, but no PND. I found it very difficult to work out if it was just baby hormones. But the feeling persisted. I knew we should have called her something else. We changed her name at ten months and it's wonderful. So glad we did it. Was very easy to do.
I hope you feel better soon, both from the PND and baby name point of view. But if you don't, then you can change the name up to a year after registration.

Thank you all for your replies, all very helpful 🙂