baby names. why?

[bertaluk3]

Hey, guys! I am really happy, finally I am pregnant. So, I will have a girl. And I am wondering, how you decide what name of your kid should be ? Are looking for some special meaning of name? Please share your experience.

It is literally just finding a name we like for us. Middle names, I like to have more of a meaning.

I think the sound is important and any associations I have with the name or words which sound like the name iyswim. It's nice if the name also has a nice meaning, but it isn't the main reason I would choose a name.

It also helps if the name is relatively easy to spell or pronounce.

We looked for (in order of importance) a name

We liked the sound of
We liked (or could at least tolerate) the potential shortenings
Which flowed well with our surname
Neither too common nor too obscure

Things like meaning and easy to pronounce/spell were also lesser considerations

Starting with the same things as Lemondrop (not so easy as you might think, if you have different tastes)

I felt easy to pronounce when you see it written down / spell when you hear it said was important too.

Then, look at initials - don't want them to spell a silly word, etc.

Then, rule out the names that close relatives already have.

It certainly starts to narrow things down

Out of interest, do most people begin by going through the alphabet, jotting down the name(s) you like best beginning with each letter, then narrow it down using the criteria mentioned above?

Names we both liked,
Went with our surname,
and sounded okay when we said them in our accent 😁

we had to find names which worked in 3 languages, which focussed the mind somewhat!

liked the sound
liked the meaning
felt like it fitted us and our family.
not used by close relatives

we went throught loads of books and used to write down names we liked.
My brother had a rule that he and his wife used - no exes and either one of them was allowed to veto any name just because they didn't like it.

we broke that slightly as dh had a family name that I happen to love and it had been an exes name which was unfortunatel, but not a serious enough ex to care.

That got us down to a list and we tried them and chatted over then and found one we both like.

With dd2, I was suddenly told on Friday I would be induced on Monday. We asked if it was boy or girl as we didn't know. We then had weekend to find a girl's name we lliked (had failed so far!)
Dh is dutch and really wonted a dutch name, but as I said it had to work in 3 languages. All my favourite names didn't work in dutch.

we went through the book and I read out the ones liked, and dh went no, no, no, then I suddenly read out one and he stopped and said yes, and that was it.

Our process went like this :
Middle name was to be that of a late relative which ruled out anything starting with the same letter
DH dislikes alliteration which largely ruled out two more letters
We both have very dull and common first names so we wanted something uncommon but not unusual.
Then we an app which was like tinder for names to make a shortlist. She still didn't get a name for 24 hours though!

Make a note every time you hear a name you like. Then look at your list and eliminate the ones you'd never actually use. Then think about whether there are other names you want to add - maybe inspired by similar names on the list. Then you both pick your favourites and learn to compromise...

Find names you both like that sound OK with your surname.
Check the meaning and pronunciation.
Consider shortened versions.
Consider whether your child might need to travel/live abroad - some names don't travel.
Consider initials.
Are the names a bit out there/unique/too popular?
Chose a name.

Baby turns up and you will realise that the name is not him/her at all and pick something else after much reading of Baby Names.

First names: we wanted names that were classic, that would age with the child, and that would never cause them any grief. They also had to "go" with the surname, as I always appreciated that my first and surnames went well together.

Middle names: wanted something with sentimental value, but no family names. Two of ours have middle names which are after members of our favourite bands, one has a middle name which is after a song, and one has a middle name which is after a character from a book.