Middle name Marilyn

[lisara79]

So, my partners mother was called Marilyn. She isn't with us anymore and he'd like to use her name as our babies middle name... what are your thoughts? I'd like to be supportive but I'm just not keen...

My lovely grandmother's middle name is Marilyn.

It's very associated with Marilyn Monroe (more so than Audrey is with Audrey Hepburn), but that's not a bad thing.

Personally I'd go with it OP, I do quite like it myself anyway and I get that you don't, but as a middle name and with it meaning so much to your partner I'd do it. Perhaps you get first choice of the first name as a compromise?

I think it's nice. If our next is a girl, she'll have my mum's very 50s name as a middle name. Not a name I'd choose otherwise but is important to me to give her some remembrance as she can't be part of the kids' lives in person.

Honestly, it would be kindest to let him use it if it's important to him. If it was the other way around what would you want?

My mum was in exactly the same position as you. She and my dad used the name, even though my mum didn't like it.

I am very glad they used it. It isn't because of the name itself, it's because of what it represents. Also because I know my mum doesn't really like it, it sort of feels like a special little gift to me from my dad.

I have thought about whether I would use it for a dd. The truth is though, I don't want to. I know if I had a dd who didn't like the name, I would take it massively to heart.

Thanks ladies... it was always most likely it would be uses. What I didn't say is that I also lost my dad and have been arguing for my dad's name as a middle name... he will probably agree to this too. My dad's name was Steven.

If it's a boy, Steven. If it's a girl, Marilyn.

Sorry for your loss, op.

I like Marilyn actually and it's nice to have a family connection.

Sorry for both your losses - it sucks. I think using Marilyn for a girl and Steve for a boy would be lovely x

So that works out perfectly really OP. If its a boy, Stephen, if a girl go with Marilyn.

Tbqh his mother could have been called Ermintrude and I would still say go for it. If he likes her name as middle, it would be a lovely touch for your dh. It'll be a nice connection for your child with the grandparent she never met. I'ming the same with my mum's name.

Think Marilyn is a beautiful name. Even without the beautiful association.

I think it would be lovely to use either Marilyn or Steven OP ❤️

I'd consider using it as a first name, it's beautiful

We've used Marilyn as a middle name - it works nicely.

In your circumstances I think Marilyn and Steven are excellent middle name choices.

Marilyn Jane

I think it's nice for a first name, Marilyn Isabel.😄

Thank you all. You've confirmed it all in my mind.

If you also want to honour your dad even if it's a girl, you could do two middle names?

Marilyn Stephanie or Marilyn Stevie? Stevie is super cool for a girl.