Has anyone ever stole your name idea?

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My DM always wanted to call my brother Jamie when he was born( with James on birth cert). This is what she introduced him as to everyone who visited in the hospital but they called him James and eventually my poor mum went along with it.

Fast forward 18 years and my cousin is pregnant and plans on calling baby Jamie! This isn't a coincidence we don't think as her sister my other cousin named her DS Ethan, which was my mums first pick for her DS2 but my dad didn't like it so they called him Nathan. When baby Ethan was born my auntie said to my mum 'oh we know you wanted to call yours Ethan'

So that's both cousins, daughters of my auntie who has known my mum through all the births of her children, who have picked names they've known my mum loved and wanted.

Just wondering if you've ever experienced someone stealing your name choice.

My SIL was recently pregnant and didn't know sex of baby. We had a private chat about names. She was stuck on girls names. I said that if I was having another girl I would call her Iris. A couple of weeks later, she announced to entire family that if baby is a girl they have decided to call her Iris! They ended up having a boy so didn't use the name, but now my DH and I are trying for DC3 and if we end up having a girl I feel like I wouldn't be able to use the one name I love (there are very few girls names I like!) because it would totally look like we've stolen their name, when in fact it was the other way round! I'll get over it but pissed me off slightly!

How can you spitefully rub in choosing a name, Ethan, that was never used by your parents as one of them didnt like it?

Have all of you got nothing else to worry you?

I think your mum will have gotten over her disappointment at not getting to use Ethan after 2 decades and if she hasnt may I suggest psychotherapy?

Given that you don't seem to like your cousins, it wouldn't matter if they used the exact same names as some actually-existing same-aged children in your part of the family.
(What's they've done is only use non-identical names to people in different generations or people who don't exist)

You don't like them. So you won't be seeing them that much. SO the names of their children won't matter any more than the names of any other children in your town.

This is madness. There is no Ethan (apart from the baby Ethan) and your brother not called Jamie.

To me it sounds like you are looking trouble. I agree that is sounds like you don't like them at all.

When I 1st met my dp. His db and sil was ttc.
I already had a dd. My dd was called the name sil dreamed of calling her dd all her life.
I told her she was more than welcome to use it. I didn't own the name.
She didn't though

Very common names and 18 years ago. As others have said, the children whose names they've 'stolen' DON'T ACTUALLY EXIST. If this is an example of their most 'spiteful' behaviour, they sound lovely!

I lived with a housemate and I had two cats, one izzy and one called Bella. I'd always said that I'd love to name my daughters izzy and Bella one day. The flat mate has had two children.... one called Izzy and one called Ella!!