First DC is due in the next few weeks and still not able to agree on a name with DH. I made a few suggestions and asked him to think about any he might like. The only one he had was after his DF. Now his DF is a lovely man and it's nothing at all against him but I can't use the name. I've said as a middle name or the Irish version of it but neither of these 'count' according to DH
He has now started saying either his DF name or his DBs name are his only suggestions as it's 'to remember them by and pass on'. No one else in his family has these names so it's not a tradition or anything like that but he is adamant these are the only ones he wants. I never thought 'to remember' someone names were used when they were all still alive, am I the only one who thinks this?
To make things worse I'm 90% sure this isn't even his idea, it's his DM who is pushing for it. I overheard her on the phone to him earlier asking if we has decided which of the names we were using and asking why we hadn't yet 
Am I the only person who thinks that you don't use the exact names of very close family when they're still around or is that a good enough reason I can use? (Besides the obvious I don't want those names reason).