Almost two weeks old no baby girl no name

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Me and my husband need to decide on a name for our daughter she is almost two weeks old and we havent decided

Shortlist
Gabrielle ( I love this too, we are living in a hispanic/latin country so quite fitting although she is likely to be called Gabriella)
Mary ( I really dislike this name but DH is adamant this must be one of her names, so either first or middle name)
Isabelle ( Indifferent)
Amara ( I love this name, just not sure if she looks like an Amara or if its too out there)

We need to decide on a first name and middle name

Mary Isabelle would be my pick.

Another vote for Amara Gabrielle Mary. Such a beautiful name!

All I keep thinking about is Gwendoline Mary from the Enid Blyton books

I like Isabelle Mary or Isabella Mary

Gabriella is nice too but I'm not so keep on Gabrielle.

What about Sofia? Ds was born in Spanish speaking county and he would have been this if he was a girl.

Now DH is insisting for mary as her first name, at this rate she is going to remain nameless forever. I do like Sofia, it almost made the shortlist.

He is insisting on a name you actively dislike?

What a prince.

If these things matter to you, aren't Mary and Amara both from same root - Italian for bitter - or have I got that wrong?
Neither you nor DH can "insist" on a first name the other dislikes. Tell him you hate it so much he's lucky you're even contemplating as middle name! Gabriella/Gabrielle Mary is pretty.

Yes popskipiekin I think they do have the same root in Italian, but Amara has different meanings in different languages like eternal/everlasting and Grace.

Yep he is insisting now, apparently it's a father's right to name their child, considering i carried her for 9 months, nearly died from a csection but apparently that doesn't matter. Maybe I'm being difficult but I just dislike the name Mary as a first name. I guess it will have to grow on me.

So her name will be Mary something I guess.

Thanks Guys

Another vote for Gabriella Mary or sorry to throw a spanner in the works but have you considered Raphaella? Beautiful with Mary.

"Yep he is insisting now, apparently it's a father's right to name their child, considering i carried her for 9 months, nearly died from a csection but apparently that doesn't matter. Maybe I'm being difficult but I just dislike the name Mary as a first name. I guess it will have to grow on me.

So her name will be Mary something I guess."

Wtaf?! He actually said it was his "right"?

Poor you op .

Tbh, in your shoes, I'd not be as worried about the name as I was about the stinking attitude of my husband.

Hope you are ok.

Or you could go for Marianna?

Maryan

Rosemary

Marigold

Maria

Marina

Marilyn

Marabelle

Amara/Amari

Marisol

Marielle

Marin

Marissa

Both parents should name the baby OP. I mean this kindly: tell him to get fucked

Don't give in! No one should have to name their child something they actively dislike. You both need to find a compromise.
FWIW I like all your name choices.

Looooove Gabrielle, it's on our list! Gabs, Gabby, Brielle, Brie, Coco (Chanel!) - all fabulous! A grown up name for someone who will be an adult for the vast majority of their life. Great choice!

Marielle

Moomsin67i wish I could tell him that, but dont think it will go down,very well. Im going to try and have a discussion with him tonight and see if he might compromise otherwise I dont have much choice. Standing my ground may lead to a really bad argument possibly worse.

Possibly worse? That sounds very ominous op. Do you have any support irl? Are you near family, friends etc?

It is deeply worrying that you are scared to speak your mind to your husband. That is not right.

How about Amaia?

Are you ok, OP? Do you have RL support?

I too love Gabriella (more so than Gabrielle I think) and think it goes beautifully with Mary. Amara is also very pretty but doesn't sit as well with Mary so I'd keep that for a possible future sibiling or pet

Ime choosing a name is always difficult and involves an element of compromise. One of my DC has a name I was initially quite reluctant to use but DH was very keen on and now I love it and am glad I went with it.

Also don't do what I did and use all your favourite names on DC1 leaving DC2 potentially nameless if they were of the same sex as DC1...perhaps why I was happy to go with DH's choice as I didn't really have any better ideas I felt strongly about!

So he's bullying you into a name you don't like, with a threat of a big argument "or worse"??

OP this isn't right. Are you ok?

OP this sounds worrying. If you feel threatened by him I would advice seeking support from women's aid (www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/) and leaving with your baby. Call there helpline 0808 2000 247
Hope you're ok xx

I am not really threatened it's just if I disagree with him he can get I guess verbally abusive, in his words "i will see what will happen to me" and I really don't like confrontation so don't want "to see what will happen to me", we live away from friends and family (abroad) so not much family support over here . TBH I have learnt generally to try and not disagree with him too much, It's just naming our daughter is something important to me, but he has put his foot down, it does sound quite silly arguing over something so trivial. Either way her name is now Mary.

Oh OP, this sounds worse as you post... Please do think about getting some support via Womensaid or equivalent...

This is the saddest thing I've ever read. What country are you in OP?

I think your daughters name is the least of your problems OP, you know what he's doing isn't right, don't you? You dont have to accept abusive behaviour from the man whos supposed to love you. I'm not having a go, really I'm not, you've just had a baby and I'm sure you're feeling vulnerable right now but maybe when you're back on your feet have a read over this thread again and see how you feel. Take care.

This is really worrying. If calling her Mary keeps you safe then that's the most important thing. But please tell someone in rl. A health visitor equivalent?