Why do you keep spelling my son's name Elliott!?

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This is to the posters who have clearly spelt a name in a certain way in their OP, but people still spell it in a way that they prefer I see it with Elliot/Elliott, Aidan/Aiden, etc. and it's written right in front of them! I get it in real life.

Why do you do it, when it's written right there???

My DD's name always gets spelled wrong and she often gets called the wrong name too, which winds her up.

Think Alicia/Alisha. She often gets the wrong one.

soup it's not always written down. Sometimes you just know a person's name and you make a best effort.

Like next door but one there's a kid called Braden. Or is is Braiden? Or Braidon? Or Braydan? Or Braydon?

The OP was about people who have it written down.

DS's name has one legitimate "traditional" spelling and one made up one (and one irish one). So why has the tax office (and the school) give him the made up one when they have his name in front of them?

The counter signatory for his last passport used the other spelling. Thankfully the passport office didn't notice.

It's laziness.

My dd is Anna and I've lost count the number of times she's had Hannah in birthday or Christmas cards from not very close relatives and neighbours, even after all the cards we've sent them signed Anna.

My name has a bazillion different spellings. Unfortunately it's just something I have to live with. My son's name has a slightly less common spelling too (think Mathew instead of Matthew) and I've realised I've condemned him to the same thing

It does piss me off when people reply to my emails with the wrong spelling (IT'S RIGHT THERE!). Sometimes I misspell their names deliberately in response. Childish but satisfying.

Totally agree, it just laziness. I am always very careful to check this sort of thing when replying to emails or writing cards as I have a common name or my generation with several common spellings. Made sure my DC have impossible to misspell names!

It's not all the modern unique spellings, it's people not checking normal names like Rachael, Clare, Katherine, Euan, Graham which have several versions.

I have an Elliot and get exactly the same OP. Drives me mad - especially when they are copying from something in front of them. LOOK at what is written down - it's ONE T!!!

I have spent my life spelling my name to people and then cursed DD2 with the same problem. She can never get her name on items (less of a problem now she's an adult you would think, but apparently not) and neither could I. I am always astounded at the number of people who tell her, after seeing her name written down, that she has spelt it wrongly. She has much more patience than me and has never told them that they are a cheeky fucker.

XH had an aunt who had never heard of my name (she wasn't the sharpest pencil in the box) and so insisted on calling me something else that started and finished with the same letters, but was completely not my name! Yet on the odd occasions when she met my mother, who had the same name exactly, she managed to get her name right. XMIL didn't even know if her own first name was Anne/Ann/Anna/Annie as she was called a mixture of all those names. But then, they were the family who taught her to call her oldest brother Uncle...

Even ordinary names now can be spelt so many different ways and because of all the 'unique' spellings, people often opt for a ridiculous version. It does give me the rage, though, when people are incapable of copying something that is right in front of their noses.

My name has a weirdo spelling. It's not even "legitimate"! People often spell it wrong. 99% of the time I could not care less. It doesn't matter.

I can't even hear the pronunciation differences that some people moan about.

I'm usually very good at learning how to spell and pronounce people's names quickly and get them right. It comes from my old, pre-baby job where I had to learn lots of names, usually from cultures other than my own and get them right. I prided myself on this and hated it when my colleague used to declare names unpronounceable / impossible to spell because it was something she wasn't familiar with. That is lazy. Sometimes you have to ask more than once how to speak or pronounce a name IRL though and that shouldn't be a problem.

Your example of putting an extra t on the end of Elliot though... hmm I don't really understand why this is such a big problem. I've done it myself on here once by total accident. I just skim read the OP, remembered the name she was thinking of was Elliot / Elliott and just went with the one I knew best, by accident. It may have been a shame well that because I was on my phone I subconsciously just went with the last spelling I saw which was Elliott in the post above mine. The OP politely corrected me (along with half the posters thread, who had done the same thing). We all apologised and used her chosen spelling in any subsequent posts. If you're talking about that sort of thing, then I really don't understand why it is so upsetting. The two spellings are so close. It's quite an easy mistake to make on here tbh, especially if you're using a phone instead of a PC where the OP is "right there". Sometimes it's autocorrect and sometimes it's people who struggle to spell or remember spellings for whatever reason. There's no need to be snippy about that either.

If you correct someone and they still get it wrong then, yes, that could be a little annoying, but not worth getting all frothy about imo.

People do get a little bit frothy about this sort of thing IRL especially, I think, when they have deliberately chosen an unusual spelling "Not Daisy, d-a-y-s-e-e actually". Or when they have chosen a hyphenated name and someone shortens it to the first part in conversation "NO, NOT AVA, IT'S AVA-MAE ACTUALLY" froth froth. Meh .

I have a name with multiple spellings. It doesn't bother me at all if people use the wrong one. It's the same name ffs. If they randomly called me Brian I'd be a little miffed .

Ugh look at those^^ typos (sorry). Bloody phone.

I have an Elliott and constantly have to correct spelling, even my dad gets it wrong! I get it on Facebook a lot even when his name is in the original post.