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Should I change 13 week old's name

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Lewiscarrera · 05/02/2017 22:47

Hi there just wanted some advice / different perspectives on this:

My DS2 is 13 weeks and I agonised over choice of name for six weeks after birth. Long story but ended up going along with a name I wasn't sure about for DS1 and have never really liked DS1's name so put a lot of pressure on myself to get this one "right" and DH was happy for me to choose given the experience with DS1. Had a shortlist of three and even came on these sites to ask for feedback etc
Anyway I chose Jack (other choices : Louis and Oliver) but now regret it and wish I had chosen Oliver (nn olllie) as DS2 looks to me more like an Ollie and brother is Joshua and husband is Julian so feels silly have three J's. Also surname is carrera and (as was pointed out) the "k" at the end of jack seems to flow into the "c" of carrera and it sounds a. It cumbersome.
I registered jack Louis as needed to register something but I haven't really announced it formally to friends just family. Should i go with Oliver?
I want to move on from this now and celebrate him but don't know what is best. I lost sight of my own gut feeling for fear of making a mistake.
If I do change it I fear other people will judge me (some already made it clear they thought it was odd I waited the full 6 weeks to start with), my toddler will get confused not to mention my poor husband who has been very patient and my MIL will be disapproving. Plus I will need to explain change on birth certificate to DS2
If I don't change it I may regret it for years to come as per DS1.
Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated as now need to stop procrastinating and take action if that is what I decide to do.

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kel1234 · 06/02/2017 21:03

If you're not happy change it, while your ds is still young. I think it's important to choose a name you're 100% happy with.
When we were choosing names, that was the 1 rule we had, that we both had to be 100% happy with the name. (We tried to imagine ourselves in 20 years time, calling our child by the names we'd chosen, or hearing the name at special occasions, and said that if we still liked how it sounded then we knew it was right).
We didn't want to know the sex so had to do it twice as well..

MixedGrill · 06/02/2017 21:08

My personal opinion, (which is not important, but yours use) is that Jack Carrera sounds great, Oliver Carrera has too many 'er' sounds, no Louis Carrera is perfect! (And he could just be known as Louis).

But you must be comfortable.

It is worth a little think about where all this is coming from.

And if you want to do it, and are sure, then do.

Would you be asking us if you were sure?

buttercup54321 · 06/02/2017 22:17

Just put Oliver in front of the other two names. William goes with surname too.

ElvenMoonwings · 19/02/2017 16:35

I think you should change it because it really sounds as if you want to - and in a year or so, any disapproving drama will be well forgotten. Sit easy emotionally with your choice and go for the re name.

I agree Jack blurs into your surname too much and I agree it would be a good idea to keep the original names as middle names or some such combination. If your in laws complain, you can also just say well Jack is his name, just not his first name.

ProphetOfDoom · 19/02/2017 17:24

You have 3 totally lovely names there so you can't make a 'bad' choice. They also ALL go equally well with the surname - you're overmulling that aspect. However, if you want to change the name then now is totally the time to do it. It's soon enough for everyone to get used to the idea. And I do understand, I have 3dc and I made a mistake naming dc2 but the importance of that has faded over time.

Do you like Ollie because it's softer sounding for a nb? Do you like Oliver as much?

Crispbutty · 19/02/2017 17:29

Sorry but jack carerra reminds me of the jack herera which is a strain if cannabis

helpwithanameplz · 19/02/2017 18:04

I think Jack Carrera sounds like a film star or something. Quite a cool name.

helpwithanameplz · 19/02/2017 18:06

Although it is going to be very confusing with mail later on

septembersunshine · 19/02/2017 18:28

Jack is an awesome name. I have one! I think it sounds very cool and strong with your surname. Oliver sounds a bit wishy washy and runs into your surname even more with repetition issues. Up to you of course. Just go with your gut feeling. I have a friend with a 5 week baby who names him a new name every day. She can't and won't decide until the 6 weeks is up. Could you look for inspiration elsewhere? Favorite book, film, grandad, royal, film star? Anything??

vrid85 · 19/02/2017 20:21

I have an Oliver Joshua, I'd definitely change it (not bias at all😉)

In all seriousness I would change it if you're not 100% happy with it I regret not doing that with my eldest.

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Lewiscarrera · 19/02/2017 23:39

Thanks for your comments. I am unsure of myself when it comes to big decisions and wish I wasn't - trust me! It's a nightmare for me and everyone else. I really don't intend any disrespect to my beautiful baby. X

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Lewiscarrera · 19/02/2017 23:45

I do like Oliver profit but agree with other posters that it doesn't sit that well with sn either but easier to my ear than all the c and KA sounds

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Lewiscarrera · 19/02/2017 23:48

How did you go about changing your DC's name Vrid? I mean re telling people not the official bit which I know about x

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auntym · 20/02/2017 18:49

Change it, I did and it was a one week wonder then was just accepted. I put the new name at the front and kept the others. I am so glad I did it as I love his name. When people questioned it I just smiled and said lots of people do it, there's a ready made form for it! Be brave and go for what's in your heart for your boy! Good luck OP.

Jw35 · 20/02/2017 23:26

Just change it and stop worrying! It's really easy. You call the reg office where he was registered and ask for an appointment to amend the birth certificate and that's it. It costs £10 and nobody thinks anything if it because it happens a lot! I changed my DD's name at 3 months and it was fine. She's 7 months now and nobody thinks of her old name anymore

Lallypopstick · 21/02/2017 06:03

Why not Jackson?

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Lewiscarrera · 21/02/2017 09:43

Jw35 - thanks. How did you announce the change of name and how did people react?

So grateful for everyone 's support on this thread xx

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Bananamanfan · 21/02/2017 09:50

How about calling him Louis? I agree all 3 are good names; he will be fine whatever you go with.
DD is known by nn, surname to everyone, including in class. It's only when we go to the drs that they call her full name.

AgathaF · 21/02/2017 10:01

Could you use his middle name as his every day name, to save chaning it? That way he gets to choose which name he would like to use once he's older.

By the way, are you ok with your thread being so identifying?

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Lewiscarrera · 21/02/2017 13:08

Agatha - no! I realised that soon after I posted it. Is there a way to hide it now I have all the advice and suggestions ? Will have to ask MHQ. Thank you

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AgathaF · 21/02/2017 13:23

I think you have to click on report at the top right of your post.

JustSpeakSense · 21/02/2017 13:27

Definitely change it, it will be a story he will enjoy hearing about as a child (how he was called something else for a while!)

Also agree it runs into the surname.

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