Is OH being silly or am I?

[Kelsey28]

There is a name that I really really like for DD's middle name but we have hit a snag. I have been with OH for five years, just before we got together he had a one night stand with a girl with this name. This is the reason he doesn't want to use the name. I don't see the problem as it was over five years ago and neither of us have seen the girl in years (We all worked together back then). Its a lush classic name and goes (IMO) perfectly with the first name we have chosen.

If you were having a ds andypur oh wanted to use the name of your ex, would you be OK with that?

Ultimately you need to choose names you both like. It's annoying (my favourite girls name is DP's ex-sil name so he won't have it) but I have to accept his wishes.

Well... if that was really just a one-night stand?

The last name... yours or DH's? Some say that the partner who doesn't give their name to the LO should be the one to choose the middle name.

I don't think either of you are being silly.

Unfortunately, names have connotations, and if one party doesn't like the name, you can't really reason them into liking it (as I've been trying to do!), and probably shouldn't force them to lump it.

Equally, it's a middle name. The number of times it's going to be uttered by you or your partner in the next twenty years? After the initial 'this is my baby's name' conversations, you'd be lucky to get into double figures.

I wouldn't want to use the name of someone my DP had had a one night stand with.

I personally would be quite upset if DH wanted to name DD after someone he had a ons with...

But seeing as it's a middle name and you're the one liking the name? I think his feelings are und understandable... and yes, names do have connotations. But you'd simply give the name 'new connotations', wouldn't you?

I guess the reason he doesn't want to use the name doesn't really matter. He just doesn't want to use it. I'd find another name you both agree on.