Falling out over surname

[kath1987]

I currently have a 4year old who has my surname as the dad was a waste of space. I met my current partner 2+ years ago and whenever kids came up I said I would never want my children to have different surnames and he said he totally agreed. As soon as I found out I was pregnant with current baby he changed his mind and wants the baby to have his name. His argument is that I already have one child with my name so it's unfair to him for this child to be different to him. We go round and round in circles and he wears me out with all the arguing over it so I give in. I only have 6weeks left and I don't want it ruining the end of my pregnancy. I even considered going to register the baby by myself as we aren't married but I know that would possibly end our relationship

There's no way I would have given my kids my partners surname if there was no chance of us getting married. OP, stick to your guns

Surely you could give this exact same advice to the man in this situation? To the word.

This is why compromise is the only real solution.

Thankyou for all the comments. We have both spoke about getting married so it's not a case of we never would.....we simply couldn't afford to at the moment. My original thought was like most of you have said.....I could easy change the name if/when we got married but If we split I doubt he would agree to change it. I don't agree with all the "man hater" accusations. I just think it's more practical my kids have the same name for example when they are both at school

Then stick with that plan. Baby has you name and when you marry you both change to his name.

That's what I did OP, and I absolutely don't regret it.