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[Melissa0108]

People are going to think that this is absolutely ridiculous, and so do I. I don't know if this is the right thing to be posting it on Baby Names, but after all it is a baby name.

About a year ago me and my mother paid to go see a physic medium. My father died when I was 15, and she told me he was sending a baby boy to me named Stephen. (After my great grandfather) which was really creepy as she could name my father and my great grandfather. She told me this is what my baby boy would be called.

I've never believed in this kind of thing but my mother really does, and she persuaded me to go with her (what a mistake)

I found out a few weeks ago that I'm having a baby boy. I really do not like the name Stephen and It is breaking my heart. My father meant to much to me and I'm scared that I will let him down if I name the baby something else.

I honestly know how ridiculous I sound, but this is something that is really getting to me. I needed to get it out.

Any advice? Or anyone in a similar situation

You do not have to be obedient to the "medium"'s guesswork.

Choose a name you like and put this behind you.

Thank you all very much for the replies, it has been so helpful.

My father was not controlling or an angry man, and has never punished me once. Well, maybe a slap on arm for answering back

I have previously booked in for more appointments with a different medium to see if I could get through to him to talk to him. But it is never worked and he has never come through. Which makes me think that it all was research used, like PP said. I can't visit his grave as we scattered his ashes in Australia. However I have tried let him know
how I felt when I was alone in a room, and just hope he knows how upset it has made me and hope he is not mad at me. Which he probably wouldn't be.

I was also thinking that it may be because he never had the chance to have his own son to use the name. He had 5 daughters. (Poor guy) But I never remember him mentioning the name Stephen.

And yes, I am afraid of what my mother would say as she has been referring to the baby as "Baby Stephen", ever since we found out. I cringe and pull a face every time she says it, but don't want to say anything nasty as she is sensitive and really believes In it all. She has spoke about my dad constantly since he passed, and I know how much he means to her. I think because he was supposedly sent from my dad, she is already bonding more with my baby and he isn't even here yet. She is so much more happy and excited than she was for any of my sisters babies. ( Which also was all girls)

Are any of your sisters called Stephanie OP?

Please don't waste your money on more Mediums. Please.

Your Dad wouldn't care what you called your baby.

Your Mum might be upset to start with, but she will get over it.

She isn't going to love the baby less because it's called something else is she?

You need to nip "Baby Stephen" in the bud now though so she has time to get used to it. Get your DH to help.