Is this a no no/odd?

[Stumbleine]

Fourth dc on the way! I am really struggling with finding a boy's name I love, however there is one which does fit the bill IMO.

But...my SIL's brother has this name. We have no real association with him other than having met once at their wedding. Would it be just odd to them though? For SIL both her brother and nephew with the same name?

Opinions gratefully received .

That's fine, just use the name

No I think it's fine. If you ruled out names on that basis there wouldn't be any left to choose from!

Erm, I think it could be ok - can you chat to her about it? It's a compliment really that you like the name but if you don't acknowledge it beforehand it might seem odd

Totally fine I think. There aren't enough names in the world to pick one that no one knows anyone with the same name!

I think it's fine.

I'd definitely say that was fine.

I would use it and not worry at all.

I would mention it to SIL first only because it might be a name she hopes to use in the future (if it's in her family/bit unusual).

What's the name OP?

I have a moderately uncommon name for England, but when DH's cousin used it for his DD I didn't find it particularly odd. If you hardly know the person with the name, I can't see a problem.

the only problem would be if it is a family name, brother and nephew already having it maybe indicates that, and if so then SIL might want to keep it on her side

not that she has sole usage rights, but she sort of has dibs if it is a family name

It would never even occur to me that this was an issue, unless it's a name so stonkingly unusual that you've literally never encountered it anywhere else.

Tondelaya - the nephew in question would be the OP's DS. I think there is only one person with the name already.

Absolutely fine. Maybe just mention it to her but I can't see why it would be a problem.

Thanks for the responses. Just to confirm - there is only one family member with this name (my ds would be the nephew).

It is a name which isn't really really popular (just inside top 100), but obviously still a well known name.

It's fine.

oh, i misread...thought the sil already had a brother and a nephew with the name and that your baby would be another.

not a family name then so go for it!

Completely fine.

Yup, agree with everyone else. No problems there. I would use it but maybe run it by her first if you still feel a bit unsure.

Definitely fine.

It's fine.

Thanks!
Now to convince Dh that he really does like the name . I don't want to have to play the whole 'giving birth' card but am tempted .

My DS has the same first name and surname as one of DH's cousins. (But DH has over 30 first cousins and most of them don't live in the same country as us)