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Swapping first & middle name

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Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 09:14

Hi ladies, I've posted before but seem to be back in the same dilemma, would you find it strange swapping a 10 week olds middle name and first name round? It's not like completely giving Different name although probably is too outsiders as they take no notice of middle names. I don't know if I have the courage to do it but keep going back to the idea as its bothering me. Please be honest and say if you thought you would think it's a bit odd. I know I shouldn't care about others bla bla bla

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WinterWinnie · 14/02/2016 19:30

It would be absolutely fine! Do it, but only if you're 100% sure... What are the names?

Hamsolo · 14/02/2016 19:32

Pay no attention to the baby name threads. It's a whole other world. If you'd gone traditional they'd tell you it was boring, and almost every name is given a hard time. If you like the original name, stick with it! If you prefer the middle name then by all mean use it. Half my family go by their middle names, it's not at all unusual.

GloriaHotcakes · 14/02/2016 19:40

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/02/2016 19:45

Bloody hell OP, don't take any notice of MN opinions. I know for a fact they are wrong about loads of names. Maybe it's quite regional as well. For e.g. On MN Yiu can't possibly have a 'cutesy' name ending in 'ie' e.g. Molly, Rosie, Poppy, Kitty, Maisie, Charlie, Archie, Freddie, etc because they can't possibly be high court judges . In reality, they are the friends of my DSes who are all privately educated and will exactly be the next generation or two of high court judges.

Ignore MN.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/02/2016 19:48

Is it Daisy? It's lovely. Honestly, the late teen Daisy's I know through teen DSes are at uni studying medicine and law. Its not lightweight in the slightest. It's a great name.

Knitella · 14/02/2016 20:07

Please give yourself some time to bond with your baby's name and ignore what random people online think of it. It took me a while to stop using pet names for my wee boy even though I love his name. I found naming my baby very emotional - took a few days and then some time to bond with it after. Not sure why. I felt a lot of pressure to get it "right".

Re using a middle name - my mum has always been called her middle name. My Granny just thought the names sounded better that way round. It isn't uncommon in Scotland for people to use their middle name. In my line of work I see plenty of professionals who go by their middle name listing their name on headed paper/business cards as "A. John Smith" etc.

At 10 weeks I don't see the problem with changing baby's name as they are too young to know. There was another thread this week about a child aged 2.5. By that age I feel that you "own" your own name and it would be confusing for the child/ a bit selfish to change it outside of serious situations that justified it.

WinterWinnie · 14/02/2016 20:11

Daisy is lovely, if it's Daisy...

Don't go by the opinions on here! My son's name, according to a lot of people on here, is 'slightly chavvy', 'far too popular, so it's unappealing', 'too 'common'' and 'far too religious'!

Please stick with it, if that's your only reason!

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Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 20:18

Oh yes I agree, I would hate this to drag on till baby was 2.5! That would not be fair and totally out of the question. i also agree that these name forums are scary places! Living in North London I hear lots of made up names and I dread to think how they would feel if they was to take a look on here!

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Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 20:20

Some uplifting positive comments! Thank you...x

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sugarplumfairy28 · 14/02/2016 20:42

Newmummy, I would talk to those closest to you, not people on here, no disrespect to anyone on here of course. It will be those people who count. I like both Daisy and Florence, and to be honest nothing at all wrong with either of them! Flower names have been used for centuries! Daisy has been around for years, as her Rose and Lily.

The internet can be a harsh and ultimately faceless opinion. At the end of the day, you need to be confident that you have chosen the right name, that suits your personality, your background and your opinion.

MamaDuckling · 15/02/2016 02:15

My folks swapped to my middle name at 12 weeks. I'm so glad they did...

If you do decide to swap, do re-register. I have a bit of an endless battle explaining that I use my middle name, especially with regard to finances etc.

Raines100 · 15/02/2016 07:38

Oh Newmummy, dont listen to baby threads. I've just told a lady on another thread I don't like one of the names on her list, Nancy, because it makes me think of ants. Sod's law that what she'll pick. If I thought for one minute she'd spend the first weeks with her newborn feeling like she'd let down her baby, I'd never have said it. I'd have told her it was a name with gravitas, with namesakes like a US President's wife, a Mitford sister, Lady Astor, etc. The ant thing means it isn't to my personal taste, but that doesn't make it a 'bad' name.

Daisy is a beautiful name. It makes me think of the lady in The Great Gatsby. I know someone who fell in love with it but felt she couldn't use it for her dd and has always regretted it.

Being a new mum is overwhelming. I remember feeling horribly inadequate and thinking my dd deserved a better mum. Those feelings just go (and if they don't, get help). You are the best mummy that your dd could have. She absolutely would choose you of all the mums in the world, and you have given her a beautiful, bright, sunny name. If you really have gone off it, change it, and don't worry about it, but don't change a name you love because of an Internet forum. Big hugs xx

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