DS is 2 1/2 and I want to change his name, I hate his current one.

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DS is 2 1/2, rather old to be thinking of changing his name. However, we have had some negative comments on it and at first, I thought, hey ho, but now, too many people dislike it and as much as we liked it at first, we both hate it now, but DS does know his name, just wondering if it's a terrible idea? Thanks.

Where adopted children have to have a name change for safeguarding reasons you start with both names e.g. Kyle Alexander or Kyle Evan then Evan Kyle or Alexander Kyle then drop the Kyle. If you do decide to change it officially you could keep Kyle as a middle name e.g. Evan Kyle Alexander.

Btw I've taught 2 children whose parents decide to change their names in y6. No adoption, just because. That was crazy.

Right I have to begin by saying that you are being bullied by some very rude people!
How dare they comment to you about your child's name!
The response to ANY name is 'how lovely' or at a push, 'Ooh, I haven't heard that before' with a smile

Anyway I digress.
Kyle is a lovely name, I know a boy here and it raises no eyebrows at all.

Please don't change it to calling him his middle name. He will spend the rest of his life sitting there blankly as people call out Kyle? Kyle? Then jump up and look as though he doesn't know his own name!

Or have to spend time explaining that his ID has to be changed as, even though he explained he is known as Alexander, it has been printed out as Kyle.

Can you tell I am known by my middle name?

I know lots of Kyles, it's a great name. I can't understand why people are saying it's awful. And I love the name Kai. Rude that people would say this to you, the wee man knows his name by now and it might get confusing for him if you change it now

I honestly cannot believe that a lot of your family and friends actually say to you that they dislike your sons name ,who would do that , if however that is the case I think I'd leave the name and get different friends because they're not nice people .

I love the name. I'm Scottish and know a few baby Kyles. You can't change it at 2.5.

I cannot understand why so many people use the word 'chav' so openly and without shame. It's so snobby. Its horrible that supposed friends are saying your son has a chavvy name. So effing what? It's his name and it's fine. Change it if you want to but only if you want to, I think Sandy is also really nice. But do it because you have changed your mind, not because you are being harassed by people.

Sorry I don't mean to sound brusque. You have my sympathies OP I would be upset too if everyone criticised my DDs name.

undercoverinSE22 MyKyle is the way to go!
Seriously though, Kyle is fine and doesn't sound chavvy to me.
I too wonder why people are so rude about baby names.

Kyle is a lovely name. Not chavvy at all. (NOt keen on Kai, but your decision!) I'd leave it - he knows his name.

There is nothing wrong with Kyle why are you worried about it being chavvy who gives a shit what others think they are just snobs

Across can relate to this also they used to call my husband young James or wee James ( he is 6 ft 4) we are hoping that with my son(who is only six weeks so early days) will eventually become Jim, by the Scottish part of the family he's wee James, haha X

At two and a half, I would not change his name personally. At this age of course he knows what his name is and it would be incredibly confusing to change his name to something else, even if it's something similar. A name is part of someone's identity, even at this early age. If you dislike Kyle and are already using Kai as a nn, then stick with that.

It's shocking anyway that people are telling you they "hate" his name and it's sad that other peoples' opinions have put you off his name so badly when it was a name you liked enough to give him in the first place. I would ignore the comments and if anyone else says the same thing, tell them to mind their own business. Kyle is not everyone's taste but it's perfectly sound and ordinary. Much better than him having an outlandish or youneeq name IMO.

I don't mind the name Kyle. Although I suppose there's Jeremy Kyle. I'd do what's been suggested and maybe add in his second name and change it. I do think people are rude saying it's not a nice name. My friend has imo not the nicest name for her child but do I comment? No.

Is it RL people or mumsnet people that have said its chavvy because if its RL people then they dont desrve your time and mumsnet people well they say a lot of things that they wouldnt say out loud.

As a pp has suggested, I think you could easily get away with changing to Karl. It sounds similar, so DS won't get too confused, and starts with the same letter.

I think if you hate it, change it NOW.

My just 3yo gets called his first name and his middle, or nick, name. He accepts both. You probably have a window here - do it now, or don't do it.

But be decisive about his new name.

FWIW I know what you mean about Kyle, I don't like it either, because it's become very popular among people who wouldn't know where it came from, and just want something short and simple. So it seems quite an ugly name to me now. People say it like 'Ky-awl' round here.

Btw I think Kai is lovely, despite its popularity - it's the little boy in the Snow Queen.

I totally know where your coming from - DD2 name (I feel) just doesn't suit her, however, even though shes only 15months I wouldn't change it now. I think it would be too confusing although in fairness she's mainly called by her totally unrelated nn

Don't let people sway you so much you're going to change the whole name of your child who knows it's his name and knows it's his identity!

People are twats!

And I say this from the vantage point of having a child with a "unique" name, as in his name doesn't even show up on that ONS name list as there's too few of him and it's not a weird spelling either.

You picked a name you loved for your gorgeous little newborn, a name that also has a lovely nickname. Don't give in!

Kyle and Ky are both fine - don't change it, he already knows his name.

Tendonqueen wrote: "Here's the answer: don't listen to people. Most of them are fools anyway."

That is absolutely terrific advice and my favourite post here. (EVER)

There's nothing wrong with Kyle and it's much too late to change it.

I think it's too late to change, but I think 'Kyle Alexander' is rather nice! I would 100% keep it :)

I can't believe people actually comment negatively about a name you pick for your child. Every one has different associations with names but why voice them to the parents who have obviously picked a name they like. Keep your negative thoughts to yourself!

I'm having DC1 and the name we have picked probably isn't to everyone's taste. I'm now planning my comeback in case someone criticizes! This makes my hormones bubble.

Kyle is a lovely name. Tell everyone they've put a negative slant on something really lovely - your child's name and they should keep their thoughts to themselves!