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Marisabel · 03/02/2016 22:22

Hello, everyone! I'm in very bad situation. I named my child with name I didn't like. After I started panicking and added middle name, just something what flows good with first name.
And now I'm dont't know what to do. Last few months been horrible for me.I cant sleep at nights, at day Im sleeping and cryin-feeling so gilty for my daughter. If someone ask her name, I just pretend I didn't hear. When other poeople at babygroup say her name-I really dislike sound of it. There is no options for nicknames as name it very short. I think I will end up at GP with depression prescription. Some days are not so bad, but sometimes I feeling like I'm going mad.
Any advice? Would you be brave enough and would change name?

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SavoyCabbage · 05/02/2016 16:25

I think you should change it too as its making you really unhappy and it's affecting your day to day behaviour.

I would change it first then I would manufacture a story or a situation to fit in with it. Like calling her a nickname and then changing the nickname to the new name.

SavoyCabbage · 05/02/2016 16:26

My dh changed his name in his twenties. To a totally different name. Nobody batted an eye.

Marisabel · 05/02/2016 18:01

Thank you, ladies or support:)
I really don't want make one more mistake. My partner says I'm making drama, he is tired to listen me complaining about the name all the time. I dont't know to get rid of first name and keep middle, or get rid of middle and move first name as middle. Or just leave it really.
I'm afraid she will be embarressed about deed poll documents. What wil school say? Mad parents?

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MiddleClassProblem · 05/02/2016 18:06

I'd maybe go to a doctor first and see if you can get some help as it might be related and it could be that nothing feels right at the mo. Don't rush into a name if you are so confused about it. Do you like her middle name?

LeaLeander · 05/02/2016 18:12

Marisabel, with all due kindness, you are letting a fairly trivial issue dominate your thoughts, cause stress to the entire family, create a disagreement between yourself and your partner, isolate you in social situations and cause you to doubt your own judgment.

The name is not the problem. Change it to whatever you want but please talk with your doctor very soon. It sounds as if you are spiraling into some sort of OCD or anxiety disorder and this is a symptom. Please seek help.

Names fluctuate through a person's lifetime. I can think of six or seven nicknames I've answered to over the years from different family members, lovers, etc. My sister's friend up and changed her name from Laura to Starr. My cousin in young adulthood changed her name from Jane to Mimi. Now her own older sisters don't even recall when she was called Jane.

Couple of years ago a co-worker (age 50) up and changed her name from Maryann to Marti. No one batted an eye in either case; people have their own lives to worry about.

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