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Giving a 'boys' name as a middle name for a girl?

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FrancoisLaPrune · 21/11/2015 20:21

I'm looking for some opinions on using the name Roy as a middle name for my DD who is due in March. Roy is my father's middle name and was my grandfather's first name and I'd like to carry on the tradition but not to the detriment of my DD!!

I'm thinking something along the lines of:

Louisa Roy L......
Evie Roy L.....
Georgia Roy L....
Sydney Roy L....

I've looked for girls names that start with Roy like Roya but I don't really like them!! I love the sound of Roy but not sure if it's off for a girl.

I'd love to hear some honest opinions Smile

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leoniethelioness · 21/11/2015 20:22

I think I'd use it as a second middle name rather than the only one.

FlipperDipper · 21/11/2015 20:24

Oh no, I think it's awful - sorry. :(

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 21/11/2015 20:25

I say no, sorry.

IoraRua · 21/11/2015 20:26

Sure, why not. It's only a middle name, it's not like she'll use it all the time. Personally I much prefer middle names to have some family link anyway.

Adarajames · 21/11/2015 20:27

Loads of people (usually rich though!) use opposite gender second names for kids o follow family traditions. As long as you let her decide if it when to use it, not untroubled w her or register her at school with it stated, Id not have a problem doing that

FrancoisLaPrune · 21/11/2015 20:29

Hmmm mixed bag of responses so far! Still undecided, DH is indifferent!

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allwineismine · 21/11/2015 20:30

It sounds better than I thought it would. And miles better than all the May/Mae which means absolutely nothing. As PP said, as long as your DD has a choice whether to use/not use the name, why not?

FuzzyWizard · 21/11/2015 20:32

I suppose Reine is the female equivalent?

I think it's fine as it is though. I wouldn't use it with Sydney but like it with Louisa

myotherusernameisbetter · 21/11/2015 20:32

Roy can also be a surname and it's quite common to use surnames as middle names regardless of gender.

I'd also consider though whether this is likely to be your only or last child as you may wish to keep it for a possible future son.

Two of your first name choices are either male or derived from a male name too so I'd be careful of that combination as it may look to your daughter, when she is older, as if you wanted a boy rather than a girl.

FrancoisLaPrune · 21/11/2015 20:35

Good point myotherusername I was convinced she was a boy but the scan so proved otherwise so maybe that explains the male type names I'm leaning toward!!

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SoWhite · 21/11/2015 20:35

I think its fine. My best friend has her mum's maiden name (which is also a male first name) as a middle name. It is sweet, and nobody has ever batted an eyelid.

starlight2007 · 21/11/2015 20:37

I know someone who has a DD called Roya...No idea of spelling don't know her that well might that be an option?

FrancoisLaPrune · 21/11/2015 20:37

My MIL has the same sowhite I think her name is lovely. I'm feeling less odd for thinking of using it now!

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mrsmugoo · 21/11/2015 20:39

With Roy I think you can just about get away with it. Not if it was Dave or frank or something!

myotherusernameisbetter · 21/11/2015 20:41

What about Ray? - I used to know a female Ray as in doh ray me rather than as in short for Raymond.

Chillyegg · 21/11/2015 20:41

I kinda like it but don't like any of your first names I do like the mix of a boy and girls name though.
Sienna Roy
Scarlet Roy
Dilara Roy
Is what I'd put with it
Or you could wait and see if you have a boy

Wishful80smontage · 21/11/2015 20:43

I really like your first name choices- and dont actually mind the roy in the middle but of not I'd find a name with the same meaning as around.

WhispersOfWickedness · 21/11/2015 20:46

Please don't.

I have a unisex name as a second middle name and absolutely hate it. It doesn't help that the male version of it brings to mind balding pot-bellied men in string vests!

Luckily I have a first middle name, so only ever use that if I can get away with it, most people don't know about the second one.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 21/11/2015 20:47

Not Roy but how about Roya. I know you don't like it but if its just as a mn and to honor your granddad. Then its certainly worth considering.

MovemberSucks · 21/11/2015 20:51

I have a boy's middle name, it was a family surname. I don't mind it, and tbh hardly anyone ever uses a middle name so nobody really knows.

originalmavis · 21/11/2015 20:54

I knew a woman whose middle name was Stephen. She chose it herself (not quite sure but is it a cathoic thing to choose a saints name at confirmation?).

TrinityForce · 21/11/2015 20:55

Roya sounds great! Nice suggestion, what do you think of it OP?

Knitella · 21/11/2015 21:01

I think it's fine - I would assume it was a family surname.

I googled the meaning - "King" - so an alternative could be to go for a female name such as Regina, Gina etc which mean Queen.

Focusfocus · 21/11/2015 21:01

The only one example I know is Meg John Barker. They are an academic who identify as of neither or both genders and are a part of the UK bisexual activist and academic community. In their case Meg John are conscious choices representing female and male aspects by choice in the name.

Cannot think of anyone else.

myotherusernameisbetter · 21/11/2015 21:07

I used to work with a woman called Kevin and wasn't one of Sting's daughters called Michael?

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