naming after a living relative?

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Is that weird? If so, how weird?

Totally hypothetical as not pregnant (yet)

I used my brothers name as a middle name for DS and he was flattered but I really like my brothers name,

We don't see each other very often but obviously at family occasions

And I'd also want to use DS name as a middle name if I did that so say for instance DS was (he isn't) called Teddy Oliver (after brother)
dS2 would be Oliver (after uncle) Teddy (after brother)

Hmm actually like the male version of my name don't know if DH does though (doubt it )

I'm going to be fun on the baby name board if this ever becomes a real dilemma aren't I? you've been warned

Seems mean not to use his dad's name again if we have another boy?

Does your DH have a middle name you could use?

I know one family where the DS1's middle name is the father's first name, and the DS2's middle name is the father's middle name.

My BIL has my DH name as one of two middle name (approx 10 years between them), I am not sure I would do it but some people do.

Using the dad's name again is fine imo. But there is no logic to using the uncle's name again.

Middle names could conceivably all the the same. I have cousins whose middle name is Mary. Boys and girls alike. A double whammy imo, as far as names go. But if the middle name was John or Joseph, etc. it wouldn't be too bad. (Actually the two girls have versions of Mary as their first names. It's not very obvious, but if you sat down and thought about it you would possibly go .)

How about (if push ever comes to shove) you and your DH coming up with lists as long as you both need, with all the names you like on them. Surely there would be some overlap?

Fine to call someone after a living relative, one of my cousins is called after my mum and I'm called after one of my aunts. Very odd to call your children after each other - they would both essentially have the same names!!