Baby boy, terrible surname, any suggestions?

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Hi everyone. We have just found out we are expecting a boy and are delighted, issue is my DPs surname is.... Wait for it..... Crippin..... It's so hard to think of a nice normal ish name to go with it!! Any suggestions? I like pretty traditional names, any suggestions greatly received!

I think Alexander Crippen sounds lovely. And I wouldn't shorten it to Alex either.

Alexander Crippin is terrible. If he goes by Alexs then Alex Crippin doesn't sound right. alec skrippen. avoid anything with a Kuh sound.

fwiw, I also regret giving my son my sur name.

Feel free to tell me to stop being so nosey but can I ask why you regret giving your son your name.
Are you not proud of your name.

OP,

what does your DP think of his surname? Would he prefer to use yours? Have you talked about it?

Maybe he doesn't like it either.

Me? or the pp who said the same thing.

If you go on to get married, you can always change the name to the father's so that you all have the same sur name if that's what you want, but you can never change the name back to the mothers.

I've done all the hard work. I was pregnant! I gave birth, I breastfed, I sacrificed career when I had to relocate. It just felt like all of the sacrifices were mine and my child got its father's name. And I can never change that back.

I know a child (not my own child actually) who is going to change his name to his mother's in a year or two when he's 18

Can't you have crippen as a middle name? As long as dad is on birth cerificate he has equal parental rights.

Otherwise I agree with poster unthread who suggested the 'I' theme, Christopher, Nicholas etc.

I think you left a crucial word out of your post then, Bonnie - did you mean to that you regret not giving your son your surname?

You're freezing ice here, Bonnie. I fully agree that a child should have their mother's name.
I think you must havd missed the word not or your post

yes, sorry for being confusing. I did mean that I regret not having given him my sur name.

It was an honour his father does not deserve. I know you never know what the future holds. But I should have been sensible. I wasn't married, and so I could have given the baby my sur name and later changed it to his father's but you cannot do it the other way round.

Is that true, though? Surely there must be a way to change it to the mother's name, even by deed poll.

You can change a child's name by deed poll Dowager but only if both parents agree to it. I would imagine that is the sticking point in Bonnie's case.

Why would you give him your dp's surname? I am genuinely intrigued?

You're not married, you don't share a name...so why saddle the baby with a name with negative connotations? Or is your surname worse?

It's really not that bad and even if it was I think it is ok to chose your DPs surname.

I was thinking Glasscock/ Shufflebottom (sorry to offend any reading with these surnames).

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thedowager you could do it if you had permission from the father! my friend got this. her child's father didn't mind and when they split up and she went to live with her family, he just shrugged and agreed and so she and her child have the same sur name as her family, which is nice for her child I think because her siblings are brothers and she has the same sur name now as her cousins.

My own x would never agree, so I would have had to have shown that I had used the name (my own name) informally for several years. This is hard to do when it's not the child's legal name. It's a bit of a catch 22. For example, if the GP and the school know that you use your own sur name for the child, then it can be used to support a name change. But you can't roll up at the school/gp and say 'well, just start calling her Clara Clyde (fake name obviously) when her birth cert says *Clara Briggs. It's hard to make that jump. So perhaps I was defeatest or perhaps I decided to let it go... I just thought that it would be a hoop I couldn't figure out how to jump through.

Ah right, it's a bit crap then, isn't it. I'm not in the UK, but I imagine it's probably not too dissimilar here.

It really does make far more sense to give DC the mother's name doesn't it? And especially when you're not married.

I think the question is, would you be OK having the surname Crippen? I have to say, I would not.... So I wouldn't give it to my child either.