We have 3 DC already and all have the names of deceased relatives as middle names, nicely balanced from all sides of the family. this was very important to DH and I and obviously means a lot to the extended family to have loved ones remembered this way.
we are now expecting DC4 and are stuck for a middle name as we have used the family names that we felt we wanted to use, there are no other candidates without offending people by using a living relative from one side but not the other IYSWIM?
If its a boy its fine as we have agreed easily to use both our fathers names. a girl is presenting more of a problem as over my dead body am I naming any child of mine after MIL but I'm not quite as heartless/cruel to name only after my mother.
so I was trying to find a way to incorporate my maiden name. its a short name as is our surname so we cant just use the surname as it sounds odd. so if, for example, my maiden name was Sand, I thought about using the name Sandrine - it incorporates my maiden name and my French heritage.
is this too much of a strangled link or a good idea?
(please don't suggest 'just pick a name you like' - for us middle names need to have meaning and I would feel bad for DC4 if all other siblings had family names and they didn't!)