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Is this silly...

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LorryHen · 12/05/2015 13:54

Giving a child your maiden name as a middle name?

I don't want to seem self indulgent, but me and OH aren't married (heathen) and I think it would be a nice way to link my name with my child.

The name we have picked is Joel Hughie Lastname...

My other concern is that my last name isn't common but it might be a bit chavvy as a middle name.

Any thoughts are welcome..

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seaoflove · 12/05/2015 17:44

Nope.

I did.

DD has my surname as her second middle name, and so will baby #2.

ApplesTheHare · 12/05/2015 18:47

We did this as our last names combined would be a curse on poor DD, so she has my maiden name (or just my name, as I never changed it) as her middle name. Seems to work fine

Hakluyt · 12/05/2015 18:57

Well, just as long as you are all happy with your children having their father's name as their last name.Fine if you are. But if you actually want your name to be "present" you need a hyphen.

MummyPidge · 12/05/2015 19:03

My dd has my mothers maiden name as a middle name, it died with my grandparents so I wanted to use it to continue the name on in a way

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LorryHen · 12/05/2015 19:07

That's lovely mummypidge, you've all given me food for thought :) x

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Tattiesthroughthebree · 12/05/2015 19:30

DC1 has my maiden name as his middle name.
DH has his mother's name as his middle name, and we used it again as DC2's middle name.
My grandmother had her grandmother's maiden name as her middle name, and we used it as DC3s middle name.

littlejohnnydory · 12/05/2015 19:34

I would have done it except that my maiden name was a chavvy boys' first name! Think Lee but not that!

bobajob · 12/05/2015 19:45

If you want your child to have a link to your name, then just give them your surname.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 12/05/2015 20:14

No not at all. It's a way of including your name as well as your DH's.

Belazu84 · 12/05/2015 22:00

Agree with everyone- it's nice! My brother and both my nephews have either their mother or grandmother's maiden name as a second middle.

TinyTear · 12/05/2015 22:03

Hakluyt, no hyphen because I am from an eu country where this is the tradition, and we have no hyphens... Just two surnames and on marriage I added my dh's one...

This way my daughters can choose to use both and be more unique or just the last one which is a common British surname (think like Smith but not Smith)...

Dh didn't want to add my surname to his so he just kept the usual "smith" so we are the smith family but me and dds are the foreign smiths...

carbolicsoaprocked · 12/05/2015 22:43

It's traditional to do this in Scotland, I would be doing it (even though we are married and I took DH's name) if my maiden name didn't sound ridiculous with DH's! Go for it.

NickySummerbee · 12/05/2015 22:43

nochurn my parents tossed a coin when I was born - my mum won &
I got her surname, & my dad's surname as a middle name.

My DC have my surname as a middle name & DH surname as their last name, tbh I wish we had hyphenated but at the time I thought it didn't matter as much to me as it does.

fattymcfatfat · 12/05/2015 22:49

my DS has my mums maiden name as a middle name and my dad's name as middle name too . (the DCs have my surname)
DD has my mums name as her name,
and DS2 has half of one brothers name (sort of) as his forename and my other brothers middle name as his middle name!
I kinda like my family a bit

pieceofpurplesky · 12/05/2015 22:50

I've done it. Not chavvy at all

Newbiecrafter · 12/05/2015 22:56

Both my children, DS and DS have my surname as their middle names. I'm also a heathen, ;-)

Brandysnapper · 12/05/2015 23:00

I've have done this for my dcs, though with hindsight I actually wish I'd double-barrelled instead.

WomanScorned · 13/05/2015 09:28

DS2 has my surname as his middle name and his dad's surname for no other reason than his dad's surname sounds better and is more common, so isn't constantly misspelled, like mine is.
I think it's a nice idea.

Hakluyt · 13/05/2015 09:36

Nearly 50 posts before the "special hard to pronounce, hard to spell last names that only women ever have" came up!

Hakluyt · 13/05/2015 09:46

"Dh didn't want to add my surname to his so he just kept the usual "smith" so we are the smith family but me and dds are the foreign smiths..."

A classic example of what happens if you don't hyphenate. You become The Smiths, and the woman's name vanishes. My SIL comes from a country with the same tradition- and her children now never use the element of their name that comes from her- they just use their father's name. She wishes she had insisted on the hyphen- she didn't understand the implications. Incidentally, it makes her particularly sad as they are now very English people and she feels her culture is being erased as well.

WomanScorned · 13/05/2015 10:10

Not sure what you mean, Hakluyt. I suspect you're doubting my feminist credentials.
DS1 has my surname, for similar reasons- his dad's just doesn't sound very good. I kept my name and we gave him my name, even though we were married. Am I vindicated?

Hakluyt · 13/05/2015 10:14

Hmm-I might let you pass, WomanScorned.

You are the first person I have ever heard say that they gave their baby their name because it was nicer than the father's!

WomanScorned · 13/05/2015 10:15

My brothers share my 'special, hard to pronounce, hard to spell surname' btw. One gave it to his son, one didn't. One is never known by his first name, only ever by a nickname derived from our surname. It means erection.

MitzyLeFrouf · 13/05/2015 10:20

A classic example of what happens if you don't hyphenate. You become The Smiths, and the woman's name vanishes.

Nope.

My name is second and if a surname is dropped it's invariably dh's.

Hakluyt · 13/05/2015 10:20

I have to say I had to grit my teeth a bit about dp's contribution to our children's hyphenated name- one letter change makes it into a form of contraception. It'd be unfortunate if our children ever met, WS!

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