Middle names - 1 for first child & 2 for second - DH thinks it's a bit unfair, do you?

[johendy]

My first child, DS has 1 middle name - his paternal grandfather's. My second child, DD had just arrived and we're thinking about giving her 2 - her maternal grandmothers and an NZ Maori name meaning love (I'm from NZ, DH is English). In hindsight I wish I'd given DS a Maori middle name too, but it just didn't occur to us at the time.

DH thinks it's not fair on DS to have 1 less middle name. What do others think?

My sister gave her first child two middle names, the second one middle name and the third none. They've all made it to adulthood without killing each other over it, so I guess there were no resentments.

One of my sisters has two middle names, myself and other sister only have one. It was/is a complete non-issue, except for mild teasing of my parents about who was obviously the favourite

I don't have a middle name and it's never bothered me. It's easier for forms and suits my no-nonsense approach to life. What are they for anyway? My sisters do have middle names but I don't think they feel any better for it.

I have one middle name & my DB has two. As a child I was insanely jealous of this, despite the fact that his extra name was a spectacularly ugly family name. DB refused to use it for his own DS, insisting it be allowed to die out.

I've been scrupulously fair with my own DC, who all have one middle name.

Don't worry too much about it OP.

Saying that, my DC1 has two. DH hated this and would only allow DC2 1. According to my DH , I 'saddled' DC1 with two middle names that's too much of a mouthful to say and too 'posh'.

I do still feel, at times , WTAF ( that's to my DH and to letting him have his way) but really it's no big deal DC2 the one middle name.

I do regret it but don't dwell on it. In fact, I rarely, if ever, think about it now.

I remember also DH Father asking what DC1 middle names were when we named him and his response was ' poor bugger'. That's another WTAF but that's an entirely different story

I could have wept at the time though as they are just Strong and traditional names but v meaningful as they are Grandparents and Great Grandparents names.

I really wouldn't worry over it OP - I'm sure the names are just fine :)

Think you should just stick to one and then let both decide on another when old enough to do so