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Calling your baby the same as a friends DD1?

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Queazy · 13/04/2015 21:50

Not a close friend, but one I'm likely to stay in touch with as dd's are the same age. What's the 'done thing' on this? Her dd's name was second on our list for girls and I'd love to use it if we have another girl.

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Mondayschild78 · 13/04/2015 21:54

Go for it. I don't think it's a big deal honestly. Certainly not something anyone would be worried about a couple of years down the line. Congratulations btw :)

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Queazy · 13/04/2015 21:58

Thank you! Embarrassingly, I'm only TTC but sat here pondering it so thought I'd ask! Maybe need to leave that worry until actually pregnant

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thehumanjam · 13/04/2015 22:03

I suppose it depends how often you see her. If you really like the name I would go for it but be prepared for a possible fallout, some people are very sensitive about names! If you really value her opinion you tell her that you are considering choosing the same name and see how she reacts.

m0therofdragons · 13/04/2015 22:05

my best friend's dd1 shares my dd1's name - if in the same room they become big and little before their names. There's 12 year's age gap but I loved the name before meeting my lovely friend. I didn't ask permission as we weren't going to use it but then dd was born and the other names we had were all wrong. I think I sort of apologised to her but she was really flattered. Wouldn't have done it if they were closer in age though.

stormyboots · 14/04/2015 08:39

If it is a really popular name I can't see what the problem would be,as your friend would encounter and expect others to have chosen this name.

If it is a more unique original name choice then no I personally would not use it as it looks like you're just copying. Some people wouldn't mind but I would be upset if a friend chose the same name as my children especially if they are same age, but my dc's names are not in top 100 as names lose their appeal for me when overused.

Obviously everyone is different but in a nutshell I think it depends on the name in question

Namechanged101 · 14/04/2015 08:44

Yes it totally depends on how popular the name is and how often you see the friend I think

InfiniteJest · 14/04/2015 08:57

We did. There was only a one year age difference, we see this friend maybe once or twice a year, and the name is not a rare one. It was legitimately our first name choice before they had their DD and they knew we would consider still using it for our DD as we had talked about it. They didn't mind at all, and I've not regretted it for a second. I felt like I was more likely to regret going for a second option rather than the name we really loved.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 14/04/2015 09:15

We wanted to use a friends DSs name (her DC2) for our DC. It is uncommon, and we are good friends (holiday together etc) so I asked if we could use it. Her son is 12 years older than our DS so we also asked him if it was ok. They were all flattered that we loved the name as much as they did (especially her son who complains a LOT about how no-one else has his name, even though everyone compliments him on it).

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 14/04/2015 09:17

Oops posted too soon.

So Id say go for it, and as and when you fall pg and later on into your pg tell her you plan on using it.

squoosh · 14/04/2015 10:42

I too think it depends on the name and how unusual it is.

If it's Emily then go for it. If it's Esmeralda you'll just look like you're copying her.

charlyn · 14/04/2015 11:01

I wouldn't but that's just me, I get put off names if I know a child with the same name.

onceuponavino · 14/04/2015 18:18

I say go for it. My parents had pretty much decided on Sophie for me until my (later became godparents) parents' best friends expected DS turned out to be a DD- born 2 weeks before me and she was named Sophie. It put my parents off straight away and I have never really liked the name I ended up with! But more importantly I know deep down my mum regrets it..she LOVED Sophie and had done since her late teens. If you have another name that you equally love then it may be fine but if it really is truly your favourite and you have always pictured your DD with it, then i think go for it

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Queazy · 14/04/2015 20:48

That's exactly it onceuponavino - it is an unusual variation of a relatively common name, if that makes sense, but I'd always planned to use it. I told her that when we first met, and so I don't think she'd necessarily think we were copying, but maybe she would...mmm. Thanks so much all - I really appreciate it. Maybe I'll have a boy if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant, then I can happily name a cat or pet rabbit my favourite girls name and get over it

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IvoryMadonna · 14/04/2015 20:56

Choose the name you want. You might not even know those people in a few years time. Think how annoying it would be if they moved away, or you did.

Happylass1 · 20/04/2015 21:12

Do it, i work in a place where there are five women with the same boy name, it's not such a big deal here in Iteland i don't think

cowbiscuits · 20/04/2015 21:22

All depends how close you are. If it's not your best mate I wouldn't worry. People probably did it all the time when we were young- hence all the Stevens, Emmas, Claires and Pauls.

Our favourite boys name is the name of DH's cousin's son. We've decided to go with it anyway, We see them two or three times a year and there'll be about 20 months between them.

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