Husband hates the names that I love!

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We have a list of 8 names for DD. I am struggling to narrow this down as I don't really love any of them. It seems that the names that I really love, my DH hates. He named DD no.2 and I really regret her name. It is fine, but a bit unimaginative and I feel that we could have done better.

I'm starting to worry that the same thing is going to happen again. He only likes names that are very safe and popular. I prefer classic, but less popular names. I love Marnie, Frances and Flora, but he hates.
Does anyone know of an brain washing techniques to bring him round?

well surely you can say that he names dd2 so you get to name this one? afyer all you are carrying her and giving bith to her

You have to choose a name you both like. Put those names out of your mind and choose others - there are thousands out there!

Okay, so I guess you need to forget the popularity criteria and go for a name that is safe but classic?

Ummm ....

Amy, Alexandra, Aurora, Bryony, Beatrice, Caroline, Christina, Claire, Daniella, Erica, Erin, Francesca, Georgina, Harriet, Hannah, Isabel, Imogen, Jessica, Joanna, Jennifer, Julia, Katherine, Katie, Lily, Lucy, Lydia, Maria, Mary, Madeleine, Miranda, Melissa, Matilda, Nicole, Nicola, Natalie, Natasha, Olivia, Philippa, Phoebe, Rebecca, Rachel, Sarah, Sophie, Sophia, Stephanie, Tabitha, Victoria, Vanessa, Verity, Zoe.

i'm having the same problem. I am hoping if I go on enough nag that I like Marianne, Francesca or Violet that my DP will just give in on one of them

Me and my hubby just could not agree on a boys name, I had a girl thank goodness! One if us would have just have to have give in if we had a boy.

Thanks for your suggestions. I'm not sure what I'm going to do, but I can't end up with another blah name that I am indifferent to.

ManicInsomniac, DD's 1 & 2 names (and my name!) are on your list. You must be on my wavelength!

I overruled with DS and DD. I have made a compromise on a boys name this time but I always win

as was said above, if he named DD2 and chose a name you don't like, then it's your turn now.

I could put my foot down, but I would hate for him to feel about a name the way that I do for DD2. I really think that I need to do some positive association techniques, I'm just not a psychologist or Derren Brown!

As Marnie and Flora are my favourite girls names I'm with you.

You need to work on him a bit harder, and try and persuade him to let you choose as he chose dd2.

Or could you be a bit name inventive i.e. If he likes Florence agree to use that and that she can be called Flora for short? Or Marnie for Marina. Etc.

I have the same problem op, how many weeks are you now?

We had thought of and had a shortlist of boys names before 20 week scan. No girl names.... Found out we're having a girl.

I started to shortlist names and set my heart on one name but dh hates it. After lots of chat where he was coming up with what i consider 'boring' names (top 5). I decided to forget about it for afew weeks.

In the meantime i've been reading lots of the name threads and picking out the odd one that i liked... Then looked back at it and crossed out the ones that actually dont work for whatever reason (alliteration, popularity etc)

Neway i've gone back to dh with new list and we are actually finding abit of common ground..... I'm 27 weeks.

Sorry for epic post, my point is take the pressure off, something will come to mind.

im afraid i don't have any brain washing ideas but my DH named our dd and i went through a spell of regretting her name but just embraced with a nn I love.

she's Scarlett (I wanted Ophelia or Pollyanna so our tastes are very different) - we now call her Star.

could you nickname one of his names?

I could have wrote your post myself op!

My dd1 is called Phoebe, which was hubbys fav name, I wanted Lacey, Phoebe was my second choice (though my taste has changed and I do prefer Phoebe now)

My dd2 is Olivia, again it was hubbys fav name and my second fav, I wanted Piper! I had name regret for ages and felt like we rushed into naming her in the delivery room, I think if we'd taken more time we might have found some mutual ground! I do like her name now, it suits her but I'll never love it :(

I am now 38 wks with dc3 and we've agreed on a boys name but can't agree on a girls name... AGAIN! I really want Amelie, I think it matches our daughters names in style and letters but hubby says no! :,( he wants Scarlett which is on my list but defo not my favourite, just doesn't seem to fit with our daughters names, we've discussed it so many time and neither of us is backing down so I dunno what we'll do if it's a girl.
I want my way.. Just once! This is defo our last baby and I still haven't had a fav name!

You have to find a name you can both live with even if it isn't one you love.

Someone mentioned a website on another thread here that might help. I think it was called namedtogether.com or something like that.
Basically you start with a huge list of names. You choose your favourites, hide the list then DH chooses his favourites and the site tells you which names you both chose.

Saying that, DP and I did it, got 5 or 6 names and we still can't decide.

That website sounds great, but not sure that my DH would put the effort in.

We have narrowed down to 4 or 5 realistic possibilities, but I still don't love them as much as Marnie.

I'm 25 weeks, so things could change. In my heart though I think that he should say "my Darling, you have carried out 4 beautiful girls, of course you can call her Marnie. I'm off to get the snip and some champagne for you." No chance!

Plenty of time to change your mind several times!

Our baby is due next week and we haven't a clue.

I got my way with my two dc! When we couldn't agree at all, a few friends with children said to me just you wait till the birth, you'll get your way. They were right, once they see you suffer through that and the emotions are running high afterwards your DH will let you call the baby anything you like! I should add both my birthday were horrendous, I earnt those names!

Births, not birthdays grrr autocorrect

Halfway through labour I asked my husband if we could call the baby Jude (sure it would be DS3) and he had to agree at that point. In the end it turned out to be DD - we had no names planned and I didn't know what to suggest because he'd vetoed my favourite girls names in the past. In the end he came up with one of my favourites - said he'd come round to it. So either guilt-trip him into it at a crucial point during labour or hope he comes round to your choice by that point.

We did the named together thing and it has provided a list of 5 names. No hope of any of my favourites. They are fine and I do like them, but not loving them.

I'm having the same thing, and am unbelievably fussy with boys names, to the point where for the past 7 and a half months (I'm 33 weeks pregnant) I have only loved 3 names. I can't take any others into consideration, I just can't! He's not suggesting any names either, so I have quietly decided to give up on asking/telling him and am going to wait until after the birth and then tackle the subject!
Although were due to pay a quick visit to his aunty tonight, and she always talks about baby names, so it may come up sooner than I would like