Not sure I'm posting this in the right place but advice RE baby name pleasE?

[sbear22]

Hi everyone, MNHQ please do move this if I am posting in the wrong place.

We HAVE chosen a baby name for our little boy, currently 25+5 weeks preg. People keep asking me and DH what we're calling him and we say we don't know yet. Our parents and siblings know we have a name for him and are increasingly finding it hard to keep it to themselves!

My question is, shall we just give in trying to keep it to close family and tell everyone?

I feel like it'll be an anticlimax when he's born, everyone already knows he's a boy and then everyone will already know his name, so ringing family etc will be more of an 'oh, he's here' type thing, instead of 'had the baby, its a boy, named xx'

shall i just stop being so precious?

We didn't tell anyone what we planned to call DD before she was born. Just told them we didn't want to tell them! We didn't have a definite name til she was actually born anyway but didn't even tell them what our favourites were.

Don't tell them. They will feel free to make comments about how they don't like the name (they won't do this after the baby is born if you can keep it a secret until then). Then you will go off your beloved name or go off your relatives and friends. It's a lose-lose situation.

We chose our name around the same time as you and we'd decided to keep it a secret, but I gave in and told people.
Because a) I'm rubbish at keeping secrets and b) I knew a lot of people pregnant and didn't want them stealing my name!

We changed our mind at birth even though we'd decided on the name ages before. I'd just say ' We've got a name in mind, but who knows, we might change!'

DH and I went through the name books and picked out the worst ones and told people those names if they asked. They were pretty sure we were joking but we only revealed the real name after DS was born.

Do whatever you like, OP. Honestly, there's generally nothing surprising about a baby being born, anyway, so I can't see the need for you to try and save up something exciting to blow the minds of your friends and family! I mean, it's either a boy or a girl...

But, based on other people's experiences documented on here, be prepared for rude responses , if you tell your circle the name you're planning to use before he is born.

It seems a bit pre-emptive to me, as you're asking - our son was 'the baby' for a couple of weeks of his life before we named him!

I'd keep it quiet. Don't tell them. Even if you're 100% confident they'll love the name and not make any comments.

It just feels weird to me that loads of people are knowing so much about a tiny person before they've even been born. I know a name doesn't really tell you anything about who they'll be, but people do get ideas in their heads and pictures of who people are based on their names, which is sad, especially if that person hasn't even been born yet.

I have a friend on who told a close family member her child's name, but they spilt it to everyone on facebook before baby was born.

If family/friends keep nagging you just say you've changed your mind or you're not sure on the name.

Plus I think it is nice for your close family to have a bit of surprise.

Do as you please. If you think it will 'spoil the surprise' of the name reveal (not my thing, personally) then wait. Simple.

I wouldn't tell.

Well, I didn't.

DO NOT TELL THEM!

It will never end well. People give you their honest opinion while you are pg. Once baby is born and named they will all say "how lovely". End of.

My friend is Nigerian and they don't reveal the name for 7 days after the birth.

That would show all the nosey friends and rellies!

I didn't tell. I didn't want any opinions on it. I find people give them whether offered or not. I just mentioned a few we had thought of but discounted. Kept the family feeling involved but still kept our name secret.

If I were you id say id changed my name to Vladimir or something equally left field. Then after the birth announce your chosen name.

We've told people if they've asked but do be prepared for verbal diarrhoea and blunt comments, people seem to think it's fine to say if they don't like it, all tact vanishes around pregnant women.

Re the anti-climax in the nicest possible way nobody really cares all that much about our babies other than us, they wont get any extra 'wow' from knowing the name now or when he's born.

I'm also 25+5.... We're having a girl, we have told everyone we're having a girl.
We're getting closer to deciding on her name now but will not be telling anyone until she is born.... I really couldnt care less what they think of the name, if me and dh are happy thats all that matters.
I did tell ppl when i had my ds and had afew 'are you sures'... When i had dd we decided on a name and started to tell ppl and then changed our minds at 38 weeks.
It didnt take anything away from our announcement having already told ppl ds's name.... But looking forward to keeping dd2's name a surprise until shes born.

No - don't tell anyone.
Before the baby is born, everyone feels they have the right to offer you their opinions (because they might be able to persuade you to change your mind) whereas once the baby is here, people will just smile and coo

I'm in the exact same boat as you. 28w pregnant with our first child, a boy, which is common knowledge. However I'm bursting to run name choices by friends and family but agree it will take some excitement away for them if they know everything. MIL managed to squeeze it out of me! Got to keep my mouth shut- don't tell people!

Don't tell anyone, keep them all in suspense

I didn't tell anyone because I knew PIL wouldn't like it and my grandparents wouldn't like it but we did and I didn't want to be upset by them being mean about it! Once she had the name, it was like it or lump it