Are the initials BJ really that bad?

[JammyTodger]

We decided on a first name for our son early on (initial B), and have since decided to let our older DS give him a middle name. He's set on James, which is a lovely name and flows well. We all love the name and I thought all was set. However, now DH has said we can't call him that as his initials will be BJ. He has suggested swapping the names around/losing the middle name, but I like it as it is. Am I being naive and will my boy be forever known as 'blowjob' if we stick with the original name? It hadn't even occurred to me tbh. What do you think?

I think that it is less bad for a boy than for a girl but would still try to avoid it tbh. Can you stick another short middle name (maybe a family name?) in between?

My brother is Benjamin James - he has never had any problems because of it

I know 4 people with those initials. It's no big deal. I also know a VD.

I think it's only a problem if you insist that people call your child "BJ". I know someone who gave the names Bob James purely so that people would have to call the kid BJ. She kicked up a mighty fuss whenever people (i.e. school) tried to use his formal name of Bob

It may well go unnoticed, and your ds could go through school without a hitch, but it's not a risk I'd take.

I probably wouldn't do it, but then we sometimes call ds by his first and middle initial.

I wouldn't use them

BJ Novak doesn't seem to mind!

Doh
I was hoping people would say DH was just being puerile and immature, but it seems BJ is less acceptable than I'd hoped.
Back to the drawing board then. It's taken us 35 weeks to come up with a name we both like. Bloody bastard blowjobs!

How about another name in between the B and the J?

I thought you were worried about ben and jerries......

My mind has very different priorities.

I wouldn't do it.

Can you give him another middle name as well? BJ(something) isn't nearly as bad. Maybe your maiden name / whichever surname of you and DH your DS won't be given?

I don't think it's bad as a first and middle initial, I definitely wouldn't if it was a first name last name situation as you always have to initial things BJ. But for a first and middle? Don't think it's that much of a problem.

If you were in the States it wouldn't matter, there is a chain of supermarkets called BJs here! But as you are in UK I would prob not do it.

it's fine. My son's two names start with B and J.
people who think you are opening them to a life of ridicule are just being over dramatic.

Brian Jones
Bruce Jenner
Bianca Jagger
Billy Joel
Boris Johnson
Billie Jean King

do people think of Blowjobs when they hear these names?

Thanks Dueling. That's exactly what I thought. TBH I got called worse at school and I don't even have rude initials.

Nah. My first and middle names are initial BJ and not a soul has ever pointed it out.

I would add an extra name in.

I don't think it matters as a first and middle. Because the initials generally used will be the first and surname.

Our neighbours dog is called BJ. Was quite amusing when it ran away, to hear them out on the street touting calling for BJ

Dh is a BJ.

When friends of ours called their DS the same names, they switched them so the initials were JB but call the ds by his middle name.

Dh was about it as in his 40+ years of existence, his initials have never caused him any problems.

How often does your middle name come up, even in school? I hated my middle name growing up, and can only think of one time that it was ever used around other kids. In my adult life, no one knows my middle name apart from my parents and husband. I don't even dislike it now, it's just not something that ever comes into conversation.

If kids want to tease, they will find something - suggestive initials or not.

Do people really use middle name initials nowadays? I can't think of any of my closet friends middle names. It would be different if your surname began with J but think BJ is fine if it's a middle initial