Middle name help please

[Becca1818]

So I am due to have my first baby on tues! Not sure how that came round so fast!

Anyway we're fairly set on a first name and have been for a while so couldn't imagine using another name. However I am a bit worried about the chosen middle name. My oh was very close to his grand dad who passed away 2 years ago and would like to use his name as a middle name which I agreed to. But then it occurred to me that my mum might be upset that I haven't used anything from her side of the family (both my granddads passed away before I was born so I didn't know them) had this baby been a girl I would have definitely wanted to use some form of her name as we were super close.

Wwyd? Any opinions welcome

Baby could always have two middle names? Unless of course your surname is super long and double barrelled in which case it'll never fit on a passport??

I'm not overly keen on more than one surname and the two grand dads names don't quite fit together - ends up a bit of a mouthful. I don't want to say to oh he can't have it as his grand dad meant the world to him. I just don't want to upset anyone. I wouldn't be fussed if he didn't have middle name.

I think you'll either have to have both - bare in mind that middle names almost never get used so whether thy go together really won't matter, or neither name.

I know this wouldn't bother me if I were your mum and it wouldn't bother my mum. This kind of thing
Matters more to some than others.

Only you know your mum. Can any names be interpreted as a nod
To your family? Ie jack as a
Nod to John. Harry as a nod to Henry?

I guess if it bothers your mum you cud go for 2 middle names. I think you need to let your husband use the grandfathers name. Fwiw I wouldn't use my Grandads name if I never met him and I was just
Pleasing my mum. This is a child not a tribute.

Will you have any other kids? You could use your granny or grandad's name next time around? I think if you explain to your mum that this was something important to your DH, she should understand.

Belazu lets see how we manage with this one first but yes at some point I think I would at some point.

I'm not convinced she would be upset to be honest I just feel like I will end up upsetting someone whatever I do. I feel a bit like piggy in the middle.

I've said to my mum that she can't be at the hospital when I'm in there (until visiting times) purely because I know if I say she can mil then be upset. Who knew it would be so much hard work!