Emilia. Help.

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This is my dd2's name. She's nearly 8 months. I adore the name; the sound, the spelling, the fact it's not too popular. But it bloody drives me nuts when people write down Amelia. I know it's only a subtle difference in sound but I'm always correcting people. She gets Emmy for short. Is she too going to have a lifetime of correcting people or be annoyed with us for choosing it? Wwyd, change it to Amelia before she turns 1 or leave it?

Leave it. Amazes me that people choose Amelia - it's a rather grim medical term for starters

Emilia is a fabulous name, so pretty. Keep!

match. I am intrigued. Were you in the audience or on stage?? Don't change her name OP. You will swap being annoyed about correcting people to being annoyed that you had to change it. If dd gets fed up of correcting people she will just stop and will answer to either. No massive hardship.

Loads of people spend their lives correcting people/specifying spellings, including people called Catherine, Rachel and all kinds of normal things. All you/she will have to do is say "It's Emilia with an E". Totally worth it for a lovely name.

What I don't understand is why you would deliberately do something that would make your child's life even slightly more difficult when you don't have to. The names are practically identical. It's deeply tedious to have to correct people, or spell your name every single time.

I think it's a shame that people make naming their children all about them , not about the child.

Glad you're keeping it, Emilia is a beautiful name

It's a lovely name (my nieces name). My sister does tend to over pronounce the 'E' when saying it to people so she hasn't had too many issues withthe spelling

I'll tell you what's 'deeply tedious' Hakluyt.......

The diminutive is a reason to keep it Emilia, surely?

Hak

Op hasn't called her child Dayzee, give over.

Errrm Hakluyt because your newborn doesn't pipe up and say "Emilia? No way, I want the other spelling!" or vice versa. Everyone's name choices are about their own preferences, not their baby's. It's a massive assumption to make that all children want to be called the most normal, easiest-spelt version of anything - I would much rather have an unusual name for example.

Unless your kids are called "boy child"/"girl child" until their are old enough to decide for themselves, you're guilty of the exact same thing.

By your logic Hakult all our children would be called John or Jane. Now that would be tedious. Oh hang on a minute, you couldn't call them that because they may be spelt Jon or Jayne.

also not all Europeans have the letter J

we could all be called Sam?

Nope. There are a world of names that don't make life difficult for their owners. And the OP has already had a taste of what the next 80 years will be like for her dd and it "bloody drives her nuts". Why would you do that to your child if you don't have to? If changing a single letter that makes practically no difference at all to how the name sounds - if it did the problem wouldn't arise-would make life that little bit easier?

because it happens the other way around, Amelias are mistakenly addressed as Emilia

or you can choose a name that is pretty straightforward like Coral only to find people confuse it with Carol

OP, do you pronounce it Em-ill-ee-ya or Em-eel-ee-ya?

I know someone who called their child Aemilia because they didn't want her to be amongst hundred of Amelias. But they pronounce it exactly the same as Amelia.

I had a really uncommon maiden name and spent 23 years spelling it for people it didn't really bother me but I did look forward to changing to my more common married name. I get asked just as much to spell my married name. So I would leave it.

Don't change it, especially if she's known as Emmy! It's a beautiful name. (Personally, I say the two names differently)

Don't change it, me my DH and DD all have unusually spelt names and I always have to correct people on it ALL THE TIME. But I wouldn't change it for the world, we like being different and we going to name our second DD with an usually spelt name when she arrives in February.

Emilia is beautiful!

I have a Scottish name and either get the Irish spelling or the I and l mixed up but I like having a unique name.
I wouldn't change it I just glad since I got married I don't have to spell my surname

I have to correct people all the time about the spelling if my name- it's mildly irritating but I tend not to even notice now!

Hak this seems to really piss you off

Emilia is lovely, I'd keep the spelling