Naming ds after close relative

[Boyontheway]

So I have 2 questions...

1. Is it too weird to call your ds the same name as your nephew (bearing in mind that both boys will be very close in age and live in same city). The name has a lot of meaning for us from both mine and dh's family and we really love the name but my brother just got in there first. If we go with another name we will use it as a middle name....

1. How many of you have called your ds after his dad? I like the name and it would follow a tradition in dh's family but part of me thinks he deserves his own unique name too...

Thoughts?

I would not use a name that's already been used by close family. I would consider using fathers name as a middle, but not the same first name for both, like John Sr. and John Jr. for example.

I personally wouldn't do either of those things, I think it would be quite confusing to have 2 Boyd so close in age with the same name unless there is a very different nice name (William and billy for example).

I'd consider giving a son his father's name as a middle name but not as a first name, I think you hit the nail on the head that he deserves his own name.

Good luck with choosing!

Boys not Boyd, nick not nice!

Plenty of boys are named after their fathers. I think it is better if there are different nicknames. So John and Jack , Bill and Will, Ted and Ed etc.

I have 2 cousins with the same name but again it is a name with a host of nicknames (though they both chose the same one in the end) and they are not that close in age. I think it depends on how much you would see your nephew and if they would be called exactly the same name (not different nicknames).

My only real concern is that people seem to place much more importance on having a name that no others in the class/family etc have nowadays. Until relatively recently parents by and large chose from a much smaller pool of names, often using the same names in each generation. This meant that knowing lots of people with the same name as you was far more accepted than I think it is now.

It would be weird to give your son the same name as his cousin, especially as they'll grow up in close proximity to one another. The name may mean a lot to you but it would just be an odd thing to do.

Not a huge fan of naming children after parents, seems a bit egotistical on the part of the parent in my opinion.

I wouldn't use the same name as a niece or nephew as it would be too confusing....dd1 does have the same name as my sister though, but we live on different continents and they are different generations and my immediate family use a nn.for dd1 that is not used for my sister...

I imagine your brother and SIL would be pretty peeved if you use your nephew's name, whatever the background. Shows a bit of a disregard for your own nephew in my book- why don't you now primarily associate the name with him?

What everyone else has said re naming after parents. Middle name fine, first name a bit odd and confusing. Could seem a bit arrogant but if it's family tradition I don't think people would necessarily feel that.