Using my niece's middle name as our DD's first name

[PrincessWatermelon]

Wondered what your thoughts were. I've always loved the name and was annoyed when my sis used it for her DD as a middle name. It's the only name my DH and I both love and works well with our chosen middle name.

Do you think it's on to use it, or not? We live v close but my DN doesn't get referred to by this name at all.

Ta.

Ask her?

She'd probably not mind.

I can't personally see why she should object. it wouldn't bother me but I agree that it would be polite to talk to her first

I think its fine to use it

My first name is the same as my cousin's middle name. She is 6 months older than me. It has never been an issue in our family.

I say go for it!

My first name is the same as my older cousin. We lived next door to each other! She was big xxxx and I was little xxxx for years, and still sometimes nowadays. It doesn't bother us at all!

My brother and first cousin, 18 months apart, same first name, grew up in the same town. They were Willy A and Willy B

Seriously, if you love a name, that's that, you can't let other people's use of it stop you naming your child what you want to. I wish I'd bloody loved a name any name!

Same goes for your sister though, why be annoyed? MN isn't really an issue but would give them a nice bond.

I wouldn't ask her. I would just use it. It's only her middle name for a start. I didn't use a name I wanted as a Z list celeb used it months before and I regret it seven years later.

Thanks all. I feel ok about it, but wanted to check it wasn't seen as a massive no no. Doubt my sis will mind in the least

I wouldn't 'ask' as such just in case she does mind, but I would 'mention' it and check her reaction.

I can't see why she would mind though. It's not like you would like to use the same first name.

Yikes I hope it is ok! We have our nephew's middle name on our shortlist for boy names and our niece's (different side of the family) middle name on our shortlist for girl names! I never even thought to check with my DSILs or DB.

That said, my nephew's middle name happens to be my Dad's name (by coincidence as he is not related to me or my Dad by blood). Also, my niece's middle name is my Mum's name (deliberately as she is my brother's LO). My Mum and Dad had the names first so really I am stealing from them!

Use it.

If it was your niece's first name I would say absolutely not. But it's just her middle name. I know people here stress about middle names but they are a total irrelevance in day to day life.

They'd have to be a bit precious if they had any objections.

Use it. My niece's middle name is on my baby name list (it's also my MIL middle name). Wouldn't occur to me that they had a right to object tbh!

My DS's middle name is the same as DNephews first name. DN is older.

It's a family name though and not just a random name we both liked.

I don't see a problem with it personally.

It pissed me off when my SIL did this with one of my DS's middle names. But we don't always get along very well so this may have been part of the annoyance - I can't really tell tbh. Ask? They might be flattered

I wouldn't worry about it. I have a friend whose brother used her 2 girls middles names as his daughters name e.g Jane Millie and Laura Ann have a cousin Millie Ann. They are a close family but they didn't even notice!!!

If you love the name use it.

I don't think I'll ask . Not for fear of her saying no, so much as telling her what name we've chosen before anyone else. I don't think she'll mind and it'll be something to bond the two cousins.

Thanks all