boy's name dilemma

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Me and dp are ttc. He's already talking about names. I have said he can choose the name for both genders as the baby will be going in my surname. The girls name he has chosen is fine. Thr boys name however is lovely but I had a miscarriage in 1997 and the baby had/or rather has a brother on her dad's side by the same name. I told d.p but he said, well you don't even see him. I never even met the kid. However it just seems strange that my angel could effectivly end up with 2 brothers of the same name. X

It's all very well saying he can choose, but that doesn't mean he can pick something you feel uncomfortable with, whether he agrees with your reasons or not. He should get the final say from a short list that you both agree on IMO.

No, its not a case of whether you ever met your child's sibling. There are thousands of names. He can pick one of the names that doesn't cause you pain.

Not I wouldn't use it. Nor would I let OH have the full say over names, you've got to both like the names of your child.

I would sort this out sooner rather than later - you need to both choose the name and agree on it, and you should both be able to put the kibosh on a name wither of you are uncomfortable with.

Th

Thankyou for your replies and advice. I have came to a conclusion that IW will put to dp. If we are blessed with a girl, she can go in my surname and he can choose her given name, and if we are blessed with a boy he can go in dp's surname and IT can pick his given name. That idea just came to me 2day. X

Can't you just choose the name together?

I still don't think that's a very good solution, why on earth can't you choose a name you both like, regardless of gender? It sounds like there are issues with regard to what surname the baby will have?