Trade off

[BlueSuede]

Hi, need some advice about a possible trade off. My OH wants to give our child, if its a girl, a particular name im not really fond of in exchange for me to have the naming rights for a boy. My question is thus: is it worth the gamble and keeping my fingers crossed for a boy with the chance of ending up having a girl with a name i dont like? Would her name grow on me over time? Thanks in advance :)

It depends how much you really dislike the girl's name. If it really is a name that you wouldn't want your daughter to have then, no, do not accept the deal. Otherwise you will have 'name regret' for ever more, take a look at some of the past threads on here from people who have agreed to a name hoping it would grow on them & then want to consider changing it months later, when it doesn't.

I would urge you to continue going through names until you find one you both like equally. There must be one out there somewhere!

What is the name in question? If you share it, someone might be able to think of something similar enough for your DH to like but different enough for you to like too!

No, wouldn't even contemplate it. I wanted names we both liked, it was worth it to keep looking.

Obviously pay for a scan, check sex, if male then take the deal, if female then look for a compromise.

Posting because my parents did this. Agreed my dad could have the name he wanted for a son, my mom would name a daughter. Worked out for them as they went on to have one of each, my brother and then me, and they're both happy with the names. Though I would have preferred the name my dad wanted for me.

But don't agree to a name you don't like. It worked for them because they each got their "favorite" for one sex, and the other name was still one they liked. If you're not going to be happy with a girl with that name, and hoping for a boy so you don't have to use it, don't use that name.

Maybe consider a short-list of names you definitely both like, and then you each get to make the ultimate decision off the lists depending on sex?

Thanks for the replies. I have read a few things about "name regret" and have decided to knock back the offer of naming a boy and forsaking any input towards a girls name. Theres still a good few weeks to go so im sure we can come to some compromise. Either that or it gives me a good few weeks to let the girls name grow on me! Thanks again! :)