Cruel names

[milnthorpegirl]

When it comes to childrens names, can a name be cruel?
Trying to decide on a name for our baby, and came across Aubrey Willow as the name for a girl. I always thought Aubrey was a boys name? So can the name you choose be cruel to your unborn child?
I am trying to think ahead when they start school, after all other children can bully over names.

mousey, I'm guessing your DD is called Shea and not Yankee?

The only Aubrey I know is an elderly man (UK). It's a lovely name, and due a revival, but I've never heard of it being used for girls before.

I know Aubrey is very popular for girls in the USA but have never heard it used for girls in the UK.

Le Cock is a cruel middle name, IMO.

I don't know anyone who has it as a first name, though.

I think the cruel ones are the ones where parents try to attribute certain qualities such as Genius, Perfecta, Attracta, Adonis etc Way too much pressure. Although I've only seen these in the baby name books and don't actually know anybody with these names.

If someone living in or planning to move to Scotland called their child Joby, that would be very stupid cruel.

Why? Does it sound like jobby and is slang for something?

ilove

It's slang for poo in Scotland.

Ned and Jakey are also not good in Scotland.

What's jackey mean in Scotland?

I know back in erm...the 16th century "the jakes" meant the toilet. Put me off the name Jacob somewhat, given the inevitable nickname. Most people might not know but I do now.

Jakey definition from urban dictionary.

Oh dear!

nevergoogle, 'Attracta' is nothing to do with being attractive, it is the Latin name of an Irish saint.

oh ok, i think many would assume it was to do with being attractive though.

A pal of mine from Enniskillen went to school with a girl called Attracta Farmer. Allegedly.

Alisvolatpropiis In Dublin 'jacks' is the term for toilet, not exactly a polite term either, equivalent to 'bog'. It comes from the much older 'jakes'.

Grim is a scandinavian name, sad when adults are ignorant about others name choices!

Also think that when it comes to school age - either they get bullied or they don't. Name, clothes, hair, size, family, location, voice, skin, anything can be used. They might end up as the 'cool kid' with the unusual name. You can't control it.

I think the only ignorance is on the parents part. If you plan to raise a child in a country or language where a name has strongly negative connotations, it is shortsighted to think that the cultural history of that name will matter.

Prik was a name I encountered in Thailand and Randy is popular in America, regardless of how well they work in other countries or languages they wouldn't work in the UK. It doesn't mean that all names from different cultures shouldn't be allowed, but names which clearly don't work in the country of residence shouldn't be used.

I've always liked the name Virginia but steered away from it because i could mentally hear the teenagers nicknaming my child 'virgin' all the way through secondary school....

agree with sasha an italian friend of mine was absolutely horrified that i considered calling my ds ben because in italy it's a name everyone associates with mussolini.