Naming our child after an ex?

[Bubbless]

I LOVE two names, one boys and one girls, but they are variations of mine and my dps exs names. Both relationships were 4ish years ago, and I really love both names (always have) so I guess I want to know.. Would you use the names? What would your dp think? Is there any way around 'oh! You named your child after your ex?!'

Hmmm, tricky! Are you still in contact? Do you still have the same social group? If not, nobody will really notice!

If they're not in your life anymore then I think it's fine

Also you say 'variations' so not exactly their name?

Are they fairly normal, popular names? If so, I don't think that's odd. The name of one of my exes was on our shortlist for DS. It's a very popular name, in the top 10 or 20 boys' names at the time, which was why we ended up not going for it, but the fact that I'd had a fairly serious boyfriend (together for over a year) with that name was not an issue.

If they are more unusual names, which anyone who knows you would immediately associate with your ex partners, you might get more reactions.

If they are normal/familiar names - Charlie, Ben, Lucy etc then I'd say it's fine.

If they are Autumn and Zavier, that might be a little more obvious...

Well, if you just happen to coincidentally like them then its not technically naming them after your ex, iyswim.
I wouldn't personally do it (I love the name of my ex, but purposely avoided it as my OH would be like ) but if you are fine with it then go for it. The name will stick to your child and be part of their identity so will lose any connotation.

There is a boys name I love, but had an ex with the same. I couldn't do it as it just reminds me of him. It would weird me out. If you can get past that, then go for it.

Neither of us speak to our exs, the full names are variations but he shortening would be the same! Need to convince my dp this is acceptable!!

I think it depends how common the names are!