Opinions please on naming baby after poorly grandmother to be??

[Thebuttonfancier]

I put a thread up here earlier in the week about girls names. Since then, we have had the devastating news that my lovely MIL has been diagnosed with secondary cancer. There is some hope but the prognosis is not great. Husband and I both love her name (Beatrice) but discounted it as it's her name. We're now considering using this name but I need opinions on whether this is a nice touch as a way for our little girl to connect with her grandma if/
when the worst happens or whether it might offend or be a constant reminder to other family members etc?

[ChippingInLovesAutumn]

That sounds like a perfect solution :) I'm very sorry to hear about your MIL & hope she does well with treatment x

There's nothing to stop you using your Mum's name as a second middle name if it would grease the wheels of family life :)

[okthen]

Sounds lovely.

My dd (3) has my late sister's name as her middle name. She died at 16 before dd was born, so it's nice to feel they have a 'link'. As well as being a lovely (we think) tribute, it has prompted dd to ask why she has it and she now tells people that her middle name is 'to remind us of auntie x' so it has helped her to learn, in a gentle way, about loss and remembrance

Ds has my late grandpa's name as a middle name. If we have any more kids we'll do similar.

Seems to me like a perfect way to use a middle name, to remember a much loved relative.

[ConcreteElephant]

I think this is lovely, and Beatrice is a beautiful name. DD has DH's Mum's name for her middle name. She didn't get to meet any of her grandchildren, though both her children were in relationships with the people they went on to marry and have families with.

DFIL re-married, a lovely lady who is very much our children's DGM, and so for DD to have Daddy's Mummy's name as part of hers gives her a special place and a lasting reminder of the Grandma she will never know.

I'm sorry about your DMIL, cancer is a horrible disease.

[Minty82]

Beautiful name and lovely gesture - I'm named after my grandmother, who died before I was born. Don't think it would have occurred to my other grandmother in a million years to be put out - after all, she actually got to be my granny! And as for being a constant reminder - only in the nicest possible way. It's not as if she'll be forgotten otherwise. I'm so sorry your family is going through this - what an emotional roller coaster for you all. All the best with your pregnancy and look after each other.

[meditrina]

I think it would be a lovely thing to do.

And you could always honour someone from your side of the family tree if you go on to have more DC (assuming there are names you like!)

I hope things go well with MIL.