Would you name your child something that a friend has named her child?

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Ok, so i've always liked the name Mia for a girl and also i think it goes well with my partners looooong surname....
but!
i have friend from work who i have known about 2-3 years but not like best buddies just really through work then she left and we kept in touch with another old work friend, so she is a friend but not close or anything....
her older daughter of about 5 is named Mia.....
am i being silly that i am even considering not naming my daughter a name i like because of this? im 38 weeks and she will be needing a name ehen she pops out!

yes you are being silly
if you like it, then use it
you may not keep in touch forever

You can use it My favourite girls name at the moment is the name of a friend's child, I worked with her 3 years ago for a short while and we are in touch on facebook but don't chat often as we're both busy. I love the name and I'm sure she won't mind me using it!

Go for it I like Mia, but would you have it as Amelia and shortened or just as Mia? Interested as I know lots of people just use the shortened names on birth certificates now

I wouldn't,but it doesn't mean you shouldn't.

I did but there is 11 years between our dc and I don't live that close to her anymore, although we are still in contact.

depends if they are a close friend or not. You sound like more acquantances than best buddies. if you were best buddies then i would say no its not on. where is mia on the rankings at the moment? if its top 10 then they obviously aren't that bothered, whereas if its around 50 might be more of an issue. But anyway ...if you were best friends or godparents to Mia 1 then i'd say bit off

How often do you see her?

Do you even know her daughter?

I mean, if your best friend had called her daugher Mia two months ago, I'd say give the kids a chance to grow up not being Mia 1 and Mia 1.

But this won't have any impact on the children at all, will it?

Anyway, a 5 year old will probably love having a baby "called after" her :o

To answer your op, no I wouldn't.

I was quite surprised when two friends of mine gave their ds the same name as mine quite soon after I'd had him. Then it turned out to be the most popular boys name ever apart from Mohammed.

No I wouldn't. I know some will say that nobody owns a name and that is true, but manners aren't the law. You won't be arrested for being rude, or insensitive, or unimaginative, but all the same, maybe you could show some imagination and sensitivity.

I don't think there's anything wrong with doing this and if there's no other name that you like anywhere near as much as Mia then definitely use it. I wouldn't personally though but only because I really wanted my DC to have a name that I didn't know any other children with. Eg I loved the name Imogen when I was pregnant with DD, but an acquaintance used it for her DD a couple of months before my DD was born. I imagined announcing the name and people saying "oh yes, X's DD is Imogen too!" and it put me right off!

I wouldn't, but then I'm still grumpy that a friend called their DD the same as mine 5 months later last year. It's outside top 200 so not like a super popular name where I expected it. I know we don't own the name, I know it doesn't really matter, and I know she will come across others in life, but I'm still grumpy about it.

How often do you see her? How far away do they live?

My friend "banned" me from using the name Evie-in fact she took a lot of persuading to actually tell me her chosen names because she was so convinced I would steal it.

I didn't, but if that was the name I fell in love with I wouldn't care if a friend had a child with the same name. If anything it just says we both have great taste in names

I wouldn't. There are thousands of other lovely names to choose from!

I wouldn't either, but I think that's because I like less well known names. I don't think it's cheeky though, given the age gap and the fact you don't see each other often.

Mia means 'mine'. Given that you have no direct contact and she seems more of an acquaintance, I wouldn't worry. Or you could go for Maya?

A good friend in my NCT group for DS1 has a Gerry and my second DS is called Gerald. I asked her if she minded as they'd both have the same name, really. She said not at all!

I am surprised to hear that people feel so possessive over names - I wouldn't care at all if someone wanted to use the same names I have for my DC. In fact it would reaffirm the attractiveness of the name, in my eyes!

I would.

The other girl is 5 not newly born. There are very few unique names no one that you know hasnt used, I wouldn't have thought. This link is not a close one and you don't see them often.

I don't think it's an issue at all.

i would. people dont own names, you can call your baby what you like

I would, it's a lovely name, I have a Mia in my family. My niece named her DS the same as my DS which was a little odd having two Xs in the family. There's a big age gap so they are known as big X and little X.