Would you use the same middle names for your children?

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Don't know what flavour dc2 will be, so may be academic. Can I ask, in principle, would you use the same 2 middle names for 2 children?

We gave ds 2 middle names which mean so much to us. One was my brother's name, the other dh's best friend's name, both of whom have sadly died. So, if we have another ds, could we use the same names? Or is that daft??

I wouldn't, you have honoured those people by giving your child their names. Giving another child their names just takes away from the sincerity imo. Do they have middle names you could use, perhaps?

Do it if you want! I know lots of folk who share their middle names with their siblings and personally I don't think there is anything with it. It's always been because those names have some special significance to the parent s and family, so why not?!

My father and his brothers all had the same middle name, it was my grandmother's maiden name, so kept the link with her family, which I think was lovely. Her maiden name was George, so not unusual as a middle name. My friend has given her sons a middle name of the street where they lived when they were conceived and born, they were born in different places but both worked well. I nearly gave my dds the same middle name, as it is a family tradition (my middle name, both my Grandmothers' and DH's Grandma too. But as they have the same first initial I gave a different middle name.

No your DS2 is an individual. You may not use those names but they are still DS1's names and identity.
I get where you are coming from though- you want ds2 to have just as meaningful names as DS1 and those names mean a lot to you but create a new name IMO.
Btw DD1 has my middle name and since is goes with every name ever and is pretty I wish I could use it for a second daughter, but will come up with something else lol

I do know someone who gave all three of her daughters her name as their middle name.
Less said about that, the better I think

No, I think children should have their own identity.

Yes, it's fine. No worse than sharing a surname.

Thank you for the opinions. chatty you have it right, we want dc2 to have a name just as meaningful as ds. We have until jan to think about it so no rush!

We don't want to use our names, it doesn't feel right to me, although that is what my parents did and I love my middle name!

I have friends who have used their maiden name as a middle name, I think I would have done this if my old surname was a little less, er, solid, no nonsense and well, shite!

What is it, something like Boggs?

What about the names of other loved ones? Grandparents? Or aunts/uncles?

kitten much worse...

I wouldn't because I just loved coming up with names, and would have felt cheated to use the same ones. Otoh dd1 is jealous because dd2 has a name that commemorates a relative and she doesn't. I was jealous because dsis had my mum's middle name and I didn't. So maybe giving your kids the same mn is a good idea.