Name envy and name wobbles

[hurricanemum]

Is anyone else suffering? I constantly think 'ooh that's a nice name why didn't I think of that' and am still really not sure about DD2 name. Just wondering how weird I am?!!!!!!!

Yes, and it doesn't get easier with time.

I really wished we had called ds3 a name that we only half considered at the time. It's really grown on me, and 13 years later so wished it had been top of our list.

Yes. DS is 3 so too late to change but I really dislike the name we've given him.

I suggested the name we gave DD2 to DH but just feel it's not special enough. dD1 is named after a wonderful and ancient relative and middle name was the bump's nn so both very special, emotive names for us. My alternative though for DD2 I worry might be a bit vintage/granny chic and will date worse that the name she has. Am thinking of adding a name before the year deadline. DD2 is now 10 months. Have felt this way since a week after registering but DH is just biding his time and now uses 'oh but I am used to it now' as a reason to keep. Think he is too worried about people (his family) thinking we are weird. Doesn't help that he is not keen on my ultimate name. Argh!!!!!

Do your DCs know about your wobbles? Am worried about identity issues! (can you tell I worry about A LOT??!!!!)

From my point of view, no he doesn't. And it's my fault because I had virtually total choice over the DSes names as DH was easy to please, just happy to go with what I liked.

Yours sounds like a different issue though, because your DH likes your DD's name and doesn't want to change it?

If I were you I'd definitely add a middle name that she/you could possibly use in the future.

Occasionally But I do love it when people admit to name envy for DD's name, so many say how nice it is.

Dd1's name is a right 'chav' name and I didn't know, it's spelt beautifully compared to the common way but no one sees the spelling when I call on her they just hear that horrid name :( she is 8 and happy with her name and hates all the other names I nearly called her - she loves her name :) so I don't give it too much thought.

Ds' s name was df's choice and the best of a bad bunch, he suits it and I am happy with it but I would like to have used my name choice sometimes.

Dd2's name is the first name we agreed on, df likes it and I think it's nice but it's another fecking chavvy name but I'm really bad at naming dc and can find at least one reason to hate every single name in the world so I let df have his say :)

Its annoying reading threads about names but not having the name itself.

*knowing

I am not keen on DS middle name, its a family name & is ok but I feel 'meh' about it.
On 1 hand I really wish we had picked a name we loved like DD middle name but I had enough trouble getting DH to agree to my fave name as his first name so by way of compromise I let him choose the middle name.
I guess being the middle name its not that important but I do still get pangs of name envy when I hear a more interesting name & wish we'd chosen that.

Sorry fromagefrog! I was just interested to know if others suffered. My DD2's name is Anna but she was nearly Martha. I really like Georgina, Heidi, Saskia and lots of other names that aren't Anna which was my original choice but always a compromise whereas Martha was my and the name I thought of her as when she came out a girl. Off to name change now!!! (my MN name not DD's lol)

Anna is a wonderful name. Much nicer than Martha, I think. I didn't have any say in dd2's name, and oh picked a name I was not overly keen on, but after a while the name just meant my dd, so now I love the name. I think I like names when I know lovely people with that name. I have never met a nice Kay, so it's not a name I like, but there are lots of lovely Annas so I think it's a great name.

Oh anna is so nice - the best out of your list there unless you made georgina georgia and even then georgia and anna are as lovely as each other :)

envys names

I like Anna much more than Martha, if that helps

I am also having a name wobble. Keeps me awake at night. Ridiculous, I know!

hurricanemum I am actually thinking I should have gone for Anna nn Annie instead of dd's name. I LOVE her name but I am convinced it will lose it's charm in 10 years or so.

I would change both my children's names without a second thought!

My daughter is Lily. I named her when I was 21, did no research probably named after Lily Allen and everyone says it is so common whenever I read anything about it. Her middle name is Arabella, and wish she was Arabella Lily and not Lily Arabella.

Again, when pregnant with my son, I just could not think of any names I LOVED. Settled with Elliott, and although I like it, I can now think of so many names I probably prefer. Makes me sad, but they both suit their names. If ever I am lucky enough to have a 3rd, I am making sure it's the right name!!

Oenminded- what's your wobble? How old is DC? My DD is 10 months. It's been going on since birth. Everyone here though seems to prefer her registered name rather than the one in my heart! If you love her name I would cling to that and who cares if there's lots of them. My DD1 is Jessica and it always seems to be near the top and I know she's always going to be referred to with her surname as there's so many but I don't mind as it's special and I love it. Think that's the problem with DD2 name it's not special enough for her!

hurricanemum she is 5 months old. DH thinks I am crazy and doesn't really want to talk about it - he wasn't 100% sure about my choice but went with it and I guess it has grown on him.