How do I choose a name when I hate every name?!

[TwoTearsInABucket]

19 weeks pregnant with DC3. I had definite favourite for DD, definite favourite for DS (but didn't get to use it and won't for DC3 either).

Every time I think of a name, 10 mins later I think yuk. And every name anyone suggests I think yuk. Same goes for baby books and the baby names boards (sorry everyone but all names are yuk ).

Tell me I will like a name by the time the baby comes

Life would be so much easier, if they came with signs around their necks, saying "hello my name is ........ " wouldn't it?!

Ha! That would be great! I feel like it's such a blinkin' responsibility giving someone a name. Gah.

Just call her him after your mum or dad, like in the olden days.

You sound sooo hormonal

I found it impossible to name ds3 till I was about 6 months pregnant, and then it came to me in a flash of lightning.

He's named after a composer whose music I love, and it's an unusual name, a very sweet name, and no one else has got there first so I don't feel like I am treading on anyone's toes.

So don't worry - their name will come to you. Just ignore anyone who says it's ridiculous, it's your baby and you're the one pushing it out (or whatever way it arrives) and so, you get to choose.

I have thought of that, but my mum hates her name and my nephew is already has the same name as my Dad. There is no way I am naming it after DH's parents

I'll just call it donut. I like that word.

Ha, yes Roooney, you might be right about the hormones...

Everything DH suggests, and he doesn't suggest much, makes me angry for some reason.

Ah there you go then. It's DH's fault

You will like a name. Honestly. I think I was 25/26 weeks. It was very sudden and I just knew.

call it Kid then

In England you have 6 weeks after baby's born to register birth.
friends could not agree, by the time they were trying to book registrar it was fully booked.
they only registered baby at over 8 weeks old!

so you have plenty of time to figure it out.
I always wanted to choose beforehand, so I see understand why you find your situation frustrating.

it will be ok.
last resort, Anon?

and here are my 2 current favourite imaginary names

Princess Dye-mond Vanillah Skye
Prinz R-poons Killah Walez

helpful?

What brilliant names amazing
I defy you to dislike those names OP.

Choose something that isn't a name yet. A word you like.

Narrow down maybe 3 names you hate the least, write them down then stop discussing/thinking about it. When your baby is born, decide quickly without overthinking it which one suits them best and start calling them the name straight away, and they will 'become' that name very quickly IFSWIM.

Disclaimer - It worked with my DD, but I didn't feel the impressive hatred that you have of ALL names! I love her name now, and have done since she was born, but while pg wasn't crazy about any name- but I reckon my ill-feeling was against the sheer choice available and the pressure of it, not the name/s itself.

Or, you could vow to name it after your mw, or the next HCP you speak to if not the right gender?

I was exactly like this with DC3 and found myself almost raging at anyone making a suggestion because I felt like they were taking the piss

I already had a DD whose name I loved, a DS whose name was a compromise but grew on me and I now love.

I ended up registering DS2 at 6 weeks because I couldn't decide. Love his name now though and would've been screwed if he were a girl as I couldn't stomach ANY girls' names

You could have some fun with it: take the first letter of each family member and make a name from that? Take the first part of your name and the second part of DH's?
I know someone who took the first part of heir continent and the second part of their DH's continent and made a name - it's actually quite nice!

amazing, I can understand why you are called amazing with that naming talent!

My mum keeps suggesting what I consider ridiculous names (Beverley anyone? Apologies to all the Beverleys out there, as I said, I hate all names!).

Mine and DH's names are really similar. We have used both our names as middle names for DS and DD, so another minefield of what middle name for DC3!

Got the 20 week scan next week so at least I will be able to narrow down my choices.

Knitted, I was the same with DD and DS but the other way round. I prefer girls names to boys names so I was very meh about DS's name. even now I am not sure I like it

AND DS and DD both have the same first initial (not on purpose) so people keep asking if it will be another name with the same letter. So I can't decide if DC3 will feel left out if they don't have that letter or it will look completely stupid if they do.

Not that I am overthinking this in any way, oh no.

twotears - thank you - R-poonz was a team effort though

look at the link below, you will want to name your daughter Quinoa after that. I dare you not to consider it least.

your son also.

I want to be called Quinoa. I am not even kidding

<a class="break-all" href="//tpinterest.com/tiffanywbwg/my-imaginary-well-dressed-toddler-daughter/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Quinoa, the imaginary model DD

I am still laughing at the timeout and Hawkeye ones

I love the first letter 'rationale'. I had a similar one: DD's name is fairly common so if DC3 was a girl they would have to have a more common name too, whereas DS1's is completely unusual so that meant DS2 had to have an unusual one too. in case they felt hard done by

No such thing as over thinking when you're pregnant - you are right. All the time. And perfectly reasonable/rational!

at 'Quinoa'

I am 19 weeks pregnant and feel very similar. I am hoping it is just hormones as before I fell pregnant loved lots of names. Sorry, not much help but you aren't alone!

I had a list of about 250 names I liked before I fell pregnant...now none of them feel right...

Bloody hormones!

WAAAAAAHHHHHH! I can't open the link amazing. Do you pronounce Quinoa as it is spelled or as it should be pronounced (keen-wah) though? Either are genius! I think it would be Quinoa for a girl and Millet for a boy

Knitted has DS2 got an unusual name? Did you follow your theory?

Rtfairy - what names did you love pre-pregnancy? Even the ones I liked and have thought possible just annoy me!

Twotearsinabucket, thanks for giving me a lovely memory there, when i was having DD2 my mum who has sadly passed away since, kept coming up with Beverly type names, I think a spent weeks like , brought a wee back remembering that about mum.

Aww, seb1 Aren't mums funny sometimes? My mum spent her time like for any name I mentioned to her with the first two.

Adam or Eve - sorted
Both great names.