I posted here asking for help pre DD2's arrival so have nc as would prefer not to say actual name...
So, gorgeous DD2 arrived three months ago. Pre birth, DP had been fairly useless with name discussions, which surprised me as we were unanimous on DD1 and it was a lovely part of the pregnancy knowing who was coming, iykwim. He dismissed the names I proposed early on (and which I really liked) but seemed to have good reasons why, e.g. associations or gut feelings. He suggested a couple but equally I didn't like them either.
So I hunted around for alternatives (and consulted MN!) and MIL helpfully waded in saying the name was the mum's prerogative, so I effectively had the final say.
I chose a fairly traditional English name which hasn't become really popular again but certainly isn't out of the ordinary. It isn't out of place with our surname and doesn't jar beside DD1's. I think it is a sweet, gentle name. She has a middle name, which DD1 chose (with quite a lot of coaching from DP) which I don't mind but didn't want as her first name.
But I find myself using other names when I speak to her (pet names like little chicken) or about her (like 'the baby' or a shortened version of her name) and it has been troubling me why this is. I now think i actually don't really like her name, for her. I feel so upset to have realised this and don't know what to do. I thought she would grow into it, become it as it were, and of course she still has time, but is becoming her own person now and I don't think it's her.
I don't have another name I think would be better as I ruled out what had been favourites and haven't committed to anything else, so it's not like the name she 'should' have is obvious. WWYD?